Did you love your nanny right away?

[Anonymous]

Did you love your nanny from the start or was it an adjustment/learning curve?

Nanny came highly recommended and is really sweet with my baby, but the baby hasn’t really taken to her yet (has been 2 weeks). The nanny told me the baby has been super fussy and my mom popped by today and said the baby was crying with the nanny the whole time.

Is this normal or a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Loved right away. But you should give her more time to bond with the baby. This really could have just been a bad, fussy day.

[Anonymous]

Is the baby fussy with other new people? How old is the baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the baby fussy with other new people? How old is the baby?

Baby is 5 months. She seems fine with some people but not others - like she loves my mom, who she hadn’t seen in a month but was smily and happy with right away. She is much less into my mother in law for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Does your baby have any health issues that may make her extra fussy these past few weeks?
I.e., acid reflux, teething, sleep off track, etc.

If not, perhaps your baby is very intuitive & can sense who really likes infants and who doesn’t....
Does the Nanny seem unable to bond due to the constant crying?

You might want to discuss how the Nanny feels about the situation.
Her insight may be helpful.

Good luck to both of you.

[Anonymous]

Can you sleep with one of the baby's blankets and then have the nanny put it on her shoulder when she holds the baby? Has the baby seen you smile at and talk with the nanny?

We have a dog, so when our dog liked our nanny, I was then comfortable. Our infant followed along.

[Anonymous]

How much have you been with nanny and baby together? Is she tender and nurturing? Do you sense that she is able to handle your baby well, or does she seem at a loss? Has she ever worked with a fussy baby before? What does your gut tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you love your nanny from the start or was it an adjustment/learning curve?

Nanny came highly recommended and is really sweet with my baby, but the baby hasn’t really taken to her yet (has been 2 weeks). The nanny told me the baby has been super fussy and my mom popped by today and said the baby was crying with the nanny the whole time.

Is this normal or a red flag?

Your children need to love the nanny, not you. You sound whacko.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you love your nanny from the start or was it an adjustment/learning curve?

Nanny came highly recommended and is really sweet with my baby, but the baby hasn’t really taken to her yet (has been 2 weeks). The nanny told me the baby has been super fussy and my mom popped by today and said the baby was crying with the nanny the whole time.

Is this normal or a red flag?

Your children need to love the nanny, not you. You sound whacko.

Well yes exactly... so sounds like this baby doesn’t love the nanny

[Anonymous]

So the short answer is no, it took a bit for me to bond with her. But she IS wonderful.

Did you just go back to work? I had a much harder time with that transition than I thought I would, and in hindsight, I am sure I transferred some of my bad feelings about that onto my nanny. Before you flame me, I REALLY don't think I acted on it, and we love her and she is still with us over 2.5 years later.

But still... it can be very hard to let someone (especially another woman, for me) take care of your baby. Could that be part of it?

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your baby have any health issues that may make her extra fussy these past few weeks?
I.e., acid reflux, teething, sleep off track, etc.

If not, perhaps your baby is very intuitive & can sense who really likes infants and who doesn’t....
Does the Nanny seem unable to bond due to the constant crying?

You might want to discuss how the Nanny feels about the situation.
Her insight may be helpful.

Good luck to both of you.

"If not, perhaps your baby is very intuitive & can sense who really likes infants and who doesn’t...."
This is absolutely true. Babies are quite intuitive. My baby will turn away from some people or cry when approached. He refused to eat when one of my caregivers would try to feed him. But with others he is engaging and happy.