Au pair hiding her social media posts

[Anonymous]

My kid brought to my attention that our au pair hides her Social media stories from
Us when she goes out. I told my kid, good. She might be posting inappropriate stuff for your age and who cares.
I then realized she is hiding them
From me as well. People can do whatever the heck they want. But someone taking care of my kids, and living in my home shouldnt go an extra mile to block me for few hours hiding what ever she does. I never even check up on her in social media?!!! Why even worry about me? I dont like this attitute one bit. I thought we had a good honest open relationship, this hiding stuff tumed me off big time. It really is a bad taste. Am i wrong? Weird....

[Anonymous]

The biggest mistake she made was adding you as a friend to her social media accounts. Everyone deserves some privacy, if she is good with your kids and has a good work ethic then I don’t see any problem. Do you tell everyone all parts of your private life, I doubt it.

[Anonymous]

What social media form is it? Is she just blocking it from YOU and your family specifically? Or is she blocking it from the general public/only making it visible to a specific group of friends?

[Anonymous]

She is hiding it from me and my family only. Her account is public. She has thousands of followers.

[Anonymous]

How old is your kid that he knows about her social media. I actually agree with others that she just wants privacy when shes not working. Maybe she feels like you would frown on her being out drinking until 2am?

[Anonymous]

Well if she’s allowing the general public to see it, it’s unlikely there’s anything truly “bad” (illegal or immoral) on it. Maybe this is just her way of letting you know that she feels creeped out that you are checking her social media so much?

[Anonymous]

You are weird. All my employers (I’m a nanny) are blocked on social media. I block them even before I interview. It’s called being smart. I don’t post anything weird, but it’s people like you who make nannies do this.

[Anonymous]

Some people are more private that others, I feel like most people overshare on social media. Smart of her for being aware of it. Same as you shouldn't be friends with employer on social media.

You said her profile is public so if you really wanted to know what she is doing you could figure out, but do you want to do that? I will not recommend.

Lastly is she Brazilian?

[Anonymous]

You are over reacting.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to see my AP's social media account and would not be offended. I hide stuff from certain friends and family as appropriate. Worry about your real life relationship

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is afraid you will be offended by some of the things she does and would think less of her.

I would let it go You are her employer after all and she can keep things private if she wants to. Just like you probably do with your own employer.

As long as it's not illegal it's ok.

[Anonymous]

If it is shared publicly you can see it; you cannot say “share with the known world; except for these 3 people”.

I would not be stressed about it; myob.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are way over the line here! You should not be friends with your employee on social media, not at all! Your son is looking at her account!?! What? You’re upset that she has standard boundaries? I am flabbergasted at your response! You are crossing a line, she is not your child, but your employee; retain professional boundaries.

[Anonymous]

She's not your child and as long as she's not posting about your kids, its none of your business.

[Anonymous]

We had au pairs who friended us on FB and those who did not. I don’t think about it twice. I never reach out to my APs to friend/follow them on social media, but I do accept their requests. I think you are overreacting, OP.