is this odd???
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Anonymous
| So I got my au pair a gift certificate to go paddle boarding on the potomac--for her and a few of her au pair friends. a few weeks ago, we saw her at breakfast adn made small talk and then she left. we find out from other au pair friends a few weeks later that they all used the gift certificate and had a great time. my au pair never tells me anything about this and when i told her i heard that you went--she just said, yes, we did. no thank you, no discussion. just weird to me. if someone game me a gift card to something, i would at least circle back and tell them i enjoyed it. |
Anonymous
| Eh, let it go. She's young and young adults don't always know the intricacies of manners and she's from a different country - maybe there you say thank you when it's given and then let it go. |
Anonymous
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Did she express appreciation when you gave her the gift certificate?
Like PP, some young people fail to have the grace and courtesy to think about circling back and mentioning how they enjoyed the use. So, let it go and don't bother with another gift certificate if it bothers you. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the above posters, but will add that she may also be secretive about her personal life. |
Anonymous
| Our first AP was incapable of expressing appreciation for anything. The last straw was when she came on a trip with us to visit the in-laws and never thanked them (or us) for a single thing. |
Anonymous
Going to visit relatives was to help you, not for her. |
Anonymous
I think this is the same poster who is trolling every other thread tonight. |
Anonymous
| It's rude but not necessarily odd. Just immaturity. |
Anonymous
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If its bothering you still I would say this to her:
"Larla, I was thinking about the paddle boarding some more. I gave you that gift certificate because I thought you and your friends would really enjoy that. Please understand that for me, it would be meaningful if you would tell me thank you and a little bit about the experience afterwards. This helps me feel like I've done something to make your experience in our family better and that you appreciate it. It also helps me want to provide more good experiences for you while you are here. If you dont tell me it was good, I will assume you didnt want/need/like it." |
Anonymous
Why do you assume she was working? In laws live in a popular town APs want to visit so we bring them and they don’t work a second. |
Anonymous
| I don't think I'd say anything else, but I also wouldn't be as likely to do anything nice like that for her again. |
Anonymous
| We had an ap like this - we were in rematch by week 10. |