I want to quit on Friday but I’m so scared help

[Anonymous]

I want to quit and I’m sooooooo scared to do it!!!
Any ideas what kind of excuses to use, I don’t want to burn the bridges
I love the kids and would love to stay in touch, but the parents haven’t been fair with me
and it’s starting to affect me and I just want to quit. I have a new job lined up that starts in 2 weeks so I
wanted to give them 2 weeks notice
I know the mom will freak out lol
Thank you for any ideas!

[Anonymous]

Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

Agghhh thank you for your response! OP here
You’re confirming my fear that they will let me go immediately
I don’t know if I should wait or what to do.
The mom is selfish and stays at home, all she does is yell at the kids all day long.
They haven’t been paying for all my hours as they’ve been letting me leave early often now, even though they know I need the money, they know!
I’m tired of all of this lol
I’m already dragging coming to work knowing how noisy and annoying she is lol
Thank you!

[Anonymous]

But isn’t it rude to not give 2 weeks notice?
But then again if we are let go and lose 2 weeks of pay, they’d not fair either, right?
Sometimes I don’t know what’s the fairest thing lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

Where in OP's post did she say the employers were unfair or dishonest? How do we know she is correct to leave? If she takes your advice, the only one acting unfair and dishonest will be OP.

OP, be an adult and be honest, or at least "honest-light". "This position isn't working out any longer. In two weeks, I will no longer be available to work with you." No lying or elaborate stories necessary.

Jesus...you all wonder why nannies aren't taken more seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But isn’t it rude to not give 2 weeks notice?
But then again if we are let go and lose 2 weeks of pay, they’d not fair either, right?
Sometimes I don’t know what’s the fairest thing lol

Yes, its incredibly rude and unprofessional to quit without notice unless there is a safety concern. Though I'm guessing by your liberal use of "lol"s you aren't too concerned with being a professional.

[Anonymous]

By using so many lols it’s only because I’m so happy to get rid of this job that I had for many years. And they’re proving it to me by not paying me my full hours.
All I do is run around like crazy clean up the house because mom won’t touch a thing, love her kids more than anything, but crafts for them, make personalized gifts for parents, and now I’m
Saying to myself how stupid I am for not quitting sooner
I’m mentally exhausted and out thousands of dollars, but I was scared to quit not knowing if I’ll find a new job how soon. Now I found a new job so I’m really happy at free al that happened here , that’s why I’m asking how to quit because I’m scared to quit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.

[Anonymous]

Can you manage without the two weeks pay? If so, give your notice tomorrow but be ready to be let go that day. You can be honest and say that you can no longer afford to have your hours cut and have found another position.

[Anonymous]

^^Friday not tomorrow, end of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.

Thank you very much I love your advice!
It totally agree with you, but in some situations I wonder why we owe them anything.
They know exactly I need certain amount of hours every week, they’ve been good for most of the part.
But since thanksgiving they give me times off unpaid without notice, will text me the night before.
Or they’ll go on vacation without paying me, like next month they planned a vacation without pay for me.
I’m tired of asking about these things.
Also they keep changing my schedule so I can’t get another job, really annoying.
I was scared to quit but now found a new job yay with vacation pay and guaranteed hours.
Also, the mom is very aggressive person, never happy, ALWAYS in a bad mood,
I’ve never seen a person like that.
Is never around the kids and if she is, all she does is yell and complain, verbally abusive.
Also threw toys before and slammed doors
Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

No notice? WTF is wrong with you people?!? I see this all the time. Be professional, even if your boss isn’t. Do the right thing in AL aspects of life, regardless of what others do! And don’t lie to get yourself out of a an uncomfortable situation! And PP is supposed to teach children to be good humans??? Wow!

OP, have you previously brought any issues up? What are the issues and how long have you been working for the family? I think those things help us to give you advice. Personally, I like to live my life in a way that I can feel great about the kind of person I am and the values I hold, therefore I think PP’s advice is complete shit! At first, keep it simple and tell them (including in a written letter) that Friday the whatever, will be your last day and that you will miss your charges tremendously and that you’d love to stay in touch and are available for occasional sitting if they are interested. If they press, which they will, your answer, in my opinion, would depend on the issues you’re having and how far you want to delve into that.

While I was writing, more responses came in. I know your other post and am glad you decided to leave! Simply tell them you need more stability and a reliable income. They will likely offer that to you at this point but it’s too late. Just say, “I’m sorry, but I have found a new position and start in 2 weeks.” If she yells at you like she does to those poor children, walk the F out and don’t look back. Good luck and good for you!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you and I are in a very similar situation... agreed on guaranteed hours which haven't been fulfilled, lots of "we don't need you this morning be here at 12 instead" texts with no pay, some of the checks I've been written lately have even bounced! Just remember that you don't owe them anything more than whatever notice is written in your contract and be as nice as you can. stay strong, fellow under-appreciated nanny

[Anonymous]

Why are you scared? You should never be afraid to change something that needs to be changed, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the parents will freak. But you are correct to leave them. Tell them about someone in your family who just had a accident and they need your help immediately. Don’t give them any notice unless you can afford to be let go immediately. They’ll be so vindictive that they’ll want to get back at you for resigning.

Congratulations and good luck on your new job!
No nanny should tolerate dishonest employers.

Where in OP's post did she say the employers were unfair or dishonest? How do we know she is correct to leave? If she takes your advice, the only one acting unfair and dishonest will be OP.

OP, be an adult and be honest, or at least "honest-light". "This position isn't working out any longer. In two weeks, I will no longer be available to work with you." No lying or elaborate stories necessary.

Jesus...you all wonder why nannies aren't taken more seriously.

Dear Troll, OP said in her opening that the parents were unfair. If you're behaving badly towards the nanny, watch out. You might be next to find yourself doing your own child care.