Difficult Mother-in-Law

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny of a 4 month old baby, and my employer's mother in law is constantly knit-picking. The problem is when the employer pulls the videos she doesn't see her criticisms as knitpicking.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to interact with the mother in law?

[Anonymous]

The mother-in-law sometimes visits and stays with me, when i am doing my job.

[Anonymous]

The baby is 4 months. What could she possibly be nit picking? They sleep, eat, poop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The baby is 4 months. What could she possibly be nit picking? They sleep, eat, poop.

Pressed send. They are awake for not too long, so there is not that much "play" time. What is she saying ?

[Anonymous]

Do the parents (your employers) actually say anything to you? If not, don’t worry about it and politely tell grandma to address her concerns with the parents or say, we’ll this is how I like to do things and I’ve been doing this for X amount of years. If they have said something to you, then you need to look for another job if this bothers you so much because it won’t stop. I’ve never dealt with grandparents micromanaging. I dealt with one grandmother and she let me run the house when she was there and when the kids would go to her she would say “nope, I’m not in charge, go talk to Mandy (the nanny)!” We had great convos too- I miss her.

[Anonymous]

I have two reall rude and intrusive grandmother’s in my last job. Talk to your employer about the issue. If it can’t be resolved, then you have to find another job.

Seriously, nothing is worse.

My current job has an amazing grandmother I wish would stay all day and come everyday. She is a joy and great with the baby.

[Anonymous]

This situation will only get worse as child gets older. You can try to talk to your MB but unless she puts a stop to MIL coming over when you are on duty, there is nothing you can do. I would start looking for a new job. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

The correct term is actually “nit-picking” which came from the practice of picking lice eggs or “nits” from people’s hair. That’s all—carry on.

[Anonymous]

Wait so what you are saying is that grandma shadows you and micromanages, then MB reviews the things grandma complained about on the nanny-cam and takes grandma’s side? Quit. There’s no hope for these people.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think it is nitpicking instead of communicating what the family wants? It’s just a matter of perspective. Maybe you just can’t have anyone tell you what to do because of inferiority issues