I put nanny in a bad spot.

[Anonymous]

Nanny doesn’t work on Fridays. Last week, knowing that we were going out of town,
Nanny asked me if anything in her schedule would change (my parents will have DD). Then today, I mentioned she would have to work on Friday morning and sleep over Thursday night - which I just didn’t think about before - and she was clearly bugged. She made an appointment for Friday morning that she now has to change.

I love our nanny and hate that I messed up (again - I am so fricking overworked).

WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny doesn’t work on Fridays. Last week, knowing that we were going out of town,
Nanny asked me if anything in her schedule would change (my parents will have DD). Then today, I mentioned she would have to work on Friday morning and sleep over Thursday night - which I just didn’t think about before - and she was clearly bugged. She made an appointment for Friday morning that she now has to change.

I love our nanny and hate that I messed up (again - I am so fricking overworked).

WWYD?

Google calendar, now! Nanny has one color for anything she needs/wants to do, you have one color per color, another color for a grandparent. One color per parent for individual things. Last two colors are group of kids and parents. This way, you block off what you need nanny to do (ahead of time!), and she can put in things like appointments (without electing for you what she’s doing), so you know when she isn’t available.

[Anonymous]

i hope you apologized. I think you should try to find someone else to work Friday. Can your husband take the day off? This is really unfair to your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Off to cover the cancellation fee, if applicable, and look into backup care options. There are several services in DC if you are local that provide back babysitters who have been vetted and passed a basic background check. In the future, you should have other options so that nanny doesn’t HAVE to work on her day off because you can just call and get a sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny doesn’t work on Fridays. Last week, knowing that we were going out of town,
Nanny asked me if anything in her schedule would change (my parents will have DD). Then today, I mentioned she would have to work on Friday morning and sleep over Thursday night - which I just didn’t think about before - and she was clearly bugged. She made an appointment for Friday morning that she now has to change.

I love our nanny and hate that I messed up (again - I am so fricking overworked).

WWYD?

Wow. That's pretty bad what you did. Is she a doormat?

[Anonymous]

So you just expect your nanny to sleep over when you snap your fingers? Unless you’re paying her to be available to sleep over any night or for her availability on Fridays, I would have said no.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Our nanny is wonderful and not a door mat! I thought I told her about Thursday sleep over and Friday since she is sleeping I’ve on Sunday night. It’s one trip - Thursday to Monday but my parents are picking up DD on Friday night.

The google calendar is a good idea. This is the second travel mix up I have caused in the last two months.

Yes, I feel like crap about it! DH and I are both so fried from work and I am 16 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Our nanny is wonderful and not a door mat! I thought I told her about Thursday sleep over and Friday since she is sleeping I’ve on Sunday night. It’s one trip - Thursday to Monday but my parents are picking up DD on Friday night.

The google calendar is a good idea. This is the second travel mix up I have caused in the last two months.

Yes, I feel like crap about it! DH and I are both so fried from work and I am 16 weeks pregnant.

Your problems should not become someone else's problems. If you can't count on your memory then accept that and put everything in writing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny doesn’t work on Fridays. Last week, knowing that we were going out of town,
Nanny asked me if anything in her schedule would change (my parents will have DD). Then today, I mentioned she would have to work on Friday morning and sleep over Thursday night - which I just didn’t think about before - and she was clearly bugged. She made an appointment for Friday morning that she now has to change.

I love our nanny and hate that I messed up (again - I am so fricking overworked).

WWYD?

You figure out a way to keep your word. I would quit working for a liar! You being over worked is not justification for this because you knew damn well this is what needed to be done.

[Anonymous]

If I were in your shoes, OP, I'd wrote her a note of apology, and tuck in a hundred dollar bill, thanking her for her dedication to your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were in your shoes, OP, I'd wrote her a note of apology, and tuck in a hundred dollar bill, thanking her for her dedication to your family.

write

[Anonymous]

Why have kids at all? I can’t believe you still expect her to stay over and work the following morning even after realizing your mistake. Wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were in your shoes, OP, I'd wrote her a note of apology, and tuck in a hundred dollar bill, thanking her for her dedication to your family.

This is an insult. OP lied to her and is now trying buying her off with a pittance. I hope her nanny finds a new job with an honest MB.

[Anonymous]

So many high drama queens on this forum! Geez, the OP made a mistake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many high drama queens on this forum! Geez, the OP made a mistake!

For the second time in recent weeks, and one that involves a major last-minute change in the nanny's work schedule. If MB doesn't want a nanny who is actively looking for a new job, she needs to apologize up, down, and sideways, and guarantee it won't happen again.