I put nanny in a bad spot.

[Anonymous]

She may have made a mistake, but she is not owning up to it the she should be. She keeps making excuses of why it happened. She also isn’t acknowledging that her nanny has a life beyond work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny doesn’t work on Fridays. Last week, knowing that we were going out of town,
Nanny asked me if anything in her schedule would change (my parents will have DD). Then today, I mentioned she would have to work on Friday morning and sleep over Thursday night - which I just didn’t think about before - and she was clearly bugged. She made an appointment for Friday morning that she now has to change.

I love our nanny and hate that I messed up (again - I am so fricking overworked).

WWYD?

Google calendar, now! Nanny has one color for anything she needs/wants to do, you have one color per color, another color for a grandparent. One color per parent for individual things. Last two colors are group of kids and parents. This way, you block off what you need nanny to do (ahead of time!), and she can put in things like appointments (without electing for you what she’s doing), so you know when she isn’t available.

We use google calendar as well, but only one color for the kids/parents schedule. I have enough colors showing in my calendar for my own things, the way PO does it would annoy me to no end!

OP, you can ASK nanny to work outside if her schedule, but not TELL her what she needs to do, unless that is in the contract and compensated for. The only proper way to address the situation is to give her an additional bonus for rearranging her life at the last minute to accommodate your needs. It is extremely rude and demeaning to assume your nanny will simply do what she is told without regard for her life and commitments outside of her job. And in the future, remember that your additional requests are just that, requests, and should be made a MINIMUM of two weeks in advance.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if this is how you phrased it to her, but you can't say "You need to sleep over Thursday night."
You COULD apologize profusely and ask if she is able to do so. If not, you are the one who changes your plans. You are the parent, and having kids will not always be convenient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many high drama queens on this forum! Geez, the OP made a mistake!

Exactly that's what I was thinking, I also don't believe all these negative comments usually come from nannies or MB. I am a nanny and I don't even think of all these comments in my dreams also.
Looks like some people doesn't have anything in life to do so they just goes to sites and troll or leave negative comments.

Please MB avoid all these negative comments, I would be probably fine if my MB just come and say I am sorry.

[Anonymous]

Definitely apologize.

And don't do it again.

I left a family for doing things like this to me on a monthly basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Our nanny is wonderful and not a door mat! I thought I told her about Thursday sleep over and Friday since she is sleeping I’ve on Sunday night. It’s one trip - Thursday to Monday but my parents are picking up DD on Friday night.

The google calendar is a good idea. This is the second travel mix up I have caused in the last two months.

Yes, I feel like crap about it! DH and I are both so fried from work and I am 16 weeks pregnant.

wait. Is your nanny not only working a day she's not normally scheduled to, but working until your parents relieve her that evening?

[Anonymous]

I’d apologize. ASK her if she can do the overnight and the Friday morning. And, if she agrees, I’d offer her a long weekend of her choosing.

If she doesn’t agree - which she doesn’t have to do - I’d ask your parents to come in early.

And, op, the fact that you said you put your nanny in a tough spot highlights how you view this problem. You view it as your nanny’s problem. Guess what - it’s YOUR problem. Your title should be ‘what can I offer my nanny to make a last minute request to a change in schedule fair/beneficial?’

How would you feel if you worked a set schedule and on Monday your boss asked you to do an overnight on Friday and work on Saturday?

You are approaching this from a very unprofessional point of view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d apologize. ASK her if she can do the overnight and the Friday morning. And, if she agrees, I’d offer her a long weekend of her choosing.

If she doesn’t agree - which she doesn’t have to do - I’d ask your parents to come in early.

And, op, the fact that you said you put your nanny in a tough spot highlights how you view this problem. You view it as your nanny’s problem. Guess what - it’s YOUR problem. Your title should be ‘what can I offer my nanny to make a last minute request to a change in schedule fair/beneficial?’

How would you feel if you worked a set schedule and on Monday your boss asked you to do an overnight on Friday and work on Saturday?

You are approaching this from a very unprofessional point of view.

To clearly state my role - I’ve been a host mom of au pairs for 8 years. And now a mom boss with a nanny.

I treat my childcare providers in the exact same manner that I expect my firm to treat me. And I’d be extremely upset if I had this type of change hoisted on me last minute.