Pregnant Nanny

[Anonymous]

When should l let my boss know I am pregnant? Do you think they will let me go immediately?

[Anonymous]

Congratulations!

As a MB I personally would just want to know your plan and if you can help us find someone to cover your maternity leave.

[Anonymous]

Do not, repeat, do NOT tell them until you're prepared to be IMMEDIATELY let go, or as soon as they replace you.

Check out the "jobs and careers" forum if you want to see how wisely your employers handle the same dilemma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When should l let my boss know I am pregnant? Do you think they will let me go immediately?

You are under no obligation to tell her. Yes, she will probably let you go immediately. She would wait to week 20 to tell her boss , so you do the same. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you feel fine, then agree that no need (and probably wiser) to wait until you start showing.
However, if morning sickness or other health issues are getting in the way of your work, then frankly telling them early is better than waiting. I had to tell my employer (I am an MB) at 8 weeks to get health accommodations I needed — if I hadn’t disclosed, it likely would have been much worse for me job-wise.
It is very sad to hear there are so many bad MBs on this forum. I know most people can’t swing paid mat leave or a nanny bringing their kid to work but it makes no sense to ask a nanny to leave before the pregnancy materially impacted their ability to work. One of my friends had her nanny announce she was pregnant on the first day of work, and she stayed with them until just about her due date.

[Anonymous]

First pregnancy I waited until 14 weeks. They didn't let me go- let me bring my baby along- but it was messy so I quit when DD was 8mo. When DD was 15 mo I got a new nanny job. I was pregnant again when she turned 19 mo. I let my employer know at 9 weeks because I wanted to know right then if they would fire me, I also only work 1-2 days a week for them. I said I would like to stay until my baby comes- or whatever works best for them. 13 weeks now and still working for them.

[Anonymous]

I would tell them around 12-16 weeks depends on how you feel and show. With my first DD I told my boss around 15 weeks, took 3 months maternity leave and bring her to work for 3 years. The second pregnancy, I told when I was 6 weeks pregnant but just because our families were very close (I worked for them for 4 years at that point) and I was so excited! Took 7 weeks maternity and brought him to work again for 6 months because both kiddos went to school full time. Now, he is 10 months old and I have been working with new fantastic family with 3 month old baby boy.

[Anonymous]

It amazes me that some people assume you’ll be let go on the spot. Unless your employers can stay home until they find a replacement,I doubt you will be let go. Tell them when you know what your plan is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It amazes me that some people assume you’ll be let go on the spot. Unless your employers can stay home until they find a replacement,I doubt you will be let go. Tell them when you know what your plan is.

Stop with the bad advice. Op should tell them when she's ready to be let go.

[Anonymous]

Good grief. It's against the law to fire employees solely because they are pregnant (not to mention that firing someone on the spot is incredibly costly and time consuming, and not something any families we know would willingly do unless there were concerns for their child's immediate safety). No, it's not at all likely that your employers are going to fire you immediately.

Assuming you otherwise have a good work situation, I would expect that you can work until your baby is born, barring any medical concerns or physical limitations. Certainly that's what we would offer as employers. After that it would really depend on the specifics of how much you wanted to work and whether you needed to bring your baby along. It wouldn't work for us (in a share) to add a newborn. It also wouldn't work for us to have our nanny go to part-time and have to find someone else to work the other half of the time. Those are both things you might want to do, and if so, you'd probably need to find a new job that was the right fit. Or you might have plans for child care for your baby and want to continue to work as usual after leave, in which case we'd work with you to find someone to fill in for your leave. If you know, that would be good to include in the conversation where you tell your employers about your pregnancy.

We did have a nanny who had to take a six-week medical leave, and it was hugely helpful that she worked her networks to find a couple of nannies who knew they had jobs ending and could take on the time she was gone. We interviewed and chose one, and she was terrific. It worked out for everyone, though I was definitely nervous about it in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

I would let them know right after you finished your first trimester.

Be sure to have some type of plan in place in order to show your employers that you have thought this entire thing out.

Will your OB appointments coincide w/any of your work days?
How do you plan on dealing w/possible morning sickness?

Also let them know how much time you will need off as well as your plan of returning back to work.
Will you have pre-arranged childcare for your baby or will you request that he/she accompany you back to work??

Finally - A huge congratulations on your brand-new upcoming bundle of joy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief. It's against the law to fire employees solely because they are pregnant (not to mention that firing someone on the spot is incredibly costly and time consuming, and not something any families we know would willingly do unless there were concerns for their child's immediate safety). No, it's not at all likely that your employers are going to fire you immediately.

Assuming you otherwise have a good work situation, I would expect that you can work until your baby is born, barring any medical concerns or physical limitations. Certainly that's what we would offer as employers. After that it would really depend on the specifics of how much you wanted to work and whether you needed to bring your baby along. It wouldn't work for us (in a share) to add a newborn. It also wouldn't work for us to have our nanny go to part-time and have to find someone else to work the other half of the time. Those are both things you might want to do, and if so, you'd probably need to find a new job that was the right fit. Or you might have plans for child care for your baby and want to continue to work as usual after leave, in which case we'd work with you to find someone to fill in for your leave. If you know, that would be good to include in the conversation where you tell your employers about your pregnancy.

We did have a nanny who had to take a six-week medical leave, and it was hugely helpful that she worked her networks to find a couple of nannies who knew they had jobs ending and could take on the time she was gone. We interviewed and chose one, and she was terrific. It worked out for everyone, though I was definitely nervous about it in the beginning.

[Anonymous]

It's not illegal to fire a nanny for being pregnant. Nannies don't work for a corporation and are at will employees. Don't tell until you're ready to be replaced.

[Anonymous]

I'd give you a month or two of warning, but I would let you go. Sorry, but I want my kids to come first, and a 9 month pregnant person is not going to be able to run around with my kids the way they normally do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd give you a month or two of warning, but I would let you go. Sorry, but I want my kids to come first, and a 9 month pregnant person is not going to be able to run around with my kids the way they normally do.

Yetbyou want your employer to give you paid maternity leave, time to pump, all the medical appointments. You are the reason employers hate hiring and do not want to hire women.