Rules for nanny hosting play dates

[Anonymous]

As the weather is getting colder, the nannies who get together at playgrounds are starting to coordinate play dates. My nanny asked if she could host another nanny and baby at our house and I’m fine with it, but what should the rules be? I was thinking that I’d need the baby’s parents name and contact information and I’d reach out and introduce myself. Is that weird? Whats normal?

[Anonymous]

That’s weird. Just let them come over!

[Anonymous]

Do you think the baby and nanny ate going to case your house and rob you. Good lord

[Anonymous]

It’s not wierd for you to touch base with the other families to introduce yourself etc. or you can tell your nanny if the parents wanted to reach out to you (because their kid is coming to your house) that she can pass along your number- this is what my families do but none of the parents have actually reached out and vice versa. I think part is because the nanny is still with the child (not dropping off) so they know their child is in good hands.

[Anonymous]

What kind of “rules” were you thinking of?

Our nanny has always invited nannies and mothers over for play dates. It never occurred to me to impose “rules”!

[Anonymous]

Op I think what you meant is what are the guidelines of hosting and you should leave it up to your nanny.

[Anonymous]

I told our nanny which rooms to keep people in, which bathroom to direct them to. We discussed a budget for snacks. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told our nanny which rooms to keep people in, which bathroom to direct them to. We discussed a budget for snacks. That's it.

Wow. Unbelievable...

I trust our nanny with the life of my child. I assumed correctly she would know which rooms to keep children in. Budget for snacks?! You can’t be serious! How much is half an apple and some crackers?!

[Anonymous]

Don't burn down the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't burn down the house.

This!

And if a nanny refuses to clean up after her charge, don’t invite them back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told our nanny which rooms to keep people in, which bathroom to direct them to. We discussed a budget for snacks. That's it.

Wow. Unbelievable...

I trust our nanny with the life of my child. I assumed correctly she would know which rooms to keep children in. Budget for snacks?! You can’t be serious! How much is half an apple and some crackers?!

Sorry that my children were born in the fall and thus, having get-togethers with other babies and nannies in Jan-April in our house and we discussed this with the nanny we had JUST hired. Oh wait, no I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I told our nanny which rooms to keep people in, which bathroom to direct them to. We discussed a budget for snacks. That's it.

Wow. Unbelievable...

I trust our nanny with the life of my child. I assumed correctly she would know which rooms to keep children in. Budget for snacks?! You can’t be serious! How much is half an apple and some crackers?!

Sorry that my children were born in the fall and thus, having get-togethers with other babies and nannies in Jan-April in our house and we discussed this with the nanny we had JUST hired. Oh wait, no I'm not.

Yes, because a new nanny could never possibly figure out that the master bedroom was no place to eat cracker or do finger painting and the powder room was for guests.

Seriously, what a weird control freak!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the weather is getting colder, the nannies who get together at playgrounds are starting to coordinate play dates. My nanny asked if she could host another nanny and baby at our house and I’m fine with it, but what should the rules be? I was thinking that I’d need the baby’s parents name and contact information and I’d reach out and introduce myself. Is that weird? Whats normal?

Most normal parents entrust their child's nanny to make these decisions. Do you generally suffer from anxiety issues?

[Anonymous]

Ignore the crazy bitchy nannies on this forum. It is perfectly reasonable to wonder what the perameters are for something new. There is no real normal here—it all depends on what works for you and for your nanny. If these are families you have no other connection with, I would probably try to contact the parents beforehand. And other limits might be in order depending on your style, such as area of the house (are bedrooms okay or would you prefer playroom/LR), number of kids, frequency and whether drop-off playdates are allowed should all be considered.

[Anonymous]

Insecure control freak parents can be very problematic all around. If it's not one thing, it's another. Maybe it's the guilt factor. I generally try to stay away from them.