Maternity Leave

[Anonymous]

If you’re going to screw up the schedule while on maternity leave just keep your kid home! Maternity leave doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want, attend outings (causing chaos) with us and messing up the SHARE schedule. And for the love of God, STOP texting me all hours of the night with changes everyday. I am not your BFF, text me during my shift hours if your expect a response. I needed to vent on my way in it’s been excuses and changes everyday for the past 1.5 months.

[Anonymous]

The other way to look at this is that it's very nice of them to pay you what I assume is your normal rate during a time when they don't actually NEED childcare. I would prefer to keep my DD home while I'm home with the new baby but I don't want to mess with my nanny's livelihood like that..

[Anonymous]

I'm in a nanny share right now and both moms are pregnant one is due in two weeks the other is due in 2 months and I'm really concerned about how the Dynamics will change so I definitely understand where you're coming from one mom is taking 4 months off while the other mom is taking 6 months off and it's about to be winter which means everyone may be stranded in the house and I just feel like it's going to be a lot of Chaos, attitudes and more just trying to figure out how to deal with the stress of it all. When I had my daughter I was not as fragile as other parents seem to be they already complained about not being able to shower brush their teeth feed themselves it wasn't that hard for me when my daughter was a newborn so I really don't understand why people struggle as much as they do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other way to look at this is that it's very nice of them to pay you what I assume is your normal rate during a time when they don't actually NEED childcare. I would prefer to keep my DD home while I'm home with the new baby but I don't want to mess with my nanny's livelihood like that..

Well, as considerate as you think you are being, your nanny would have found another position by time your maternity leave was up. This benefits you, your family, and your children’s future.

[Anonymous]

Maternity leave and the new baby is always a huge adjustment for everyone. Nanny here and as long as you have guaranteed hours (being paid from this time to this time on these days) your employer can give you as erratic schedule as she chooses - those are her hours. As for the disruption to your older child’s schedule, this is absolutely something you need to discuss with her as it is detrimental to her older child.

Don’t answer texts after a certain time, OP. Your employer is postpartum and probably up all night with the newborn and is texting you things so she doesn’t forget. A little patience and sympathy will go a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to screw up the schedule while on maternity leave just keep your kid home! Maternity leave doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want, attend outings (causing chaos) with us and messing up the SHARE schedule. And for the love of God, STOP texting me all hours of the night with changes everyday. I am not your BFF, text me during my shift hours if your expect a response. I needed to vent on my way in it’s been excuses and changes everyday for the past 1.5 months.

Her being the mom means she gets to do what she wants with her kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to screw up the schedule while on maternity leave just keep your kid home! Maternity leave doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want, attend outings (causing chaos) with us and messing up the SHARE schedule. And for the love of God, STOP texting me all hours of the night with changes everyday. I am not your BFF, text me during my shift hours if your expect a response. I needed to vent on my way in it’s been excuses and changes everyday for the past 1.5 months.

Her being the mom means she gets to do what she wants with her kid.

Who cares about what's best for the child? The nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to screw up the schedule while on maternity leave just keep your kid home! Maternity leave doesn’t mean you get to do whatever you want, attend outings (causing chaos) with us and messing up the SHARE schedule. And for the love of God, STOP texting me all hours of the night with changes everyday. I am not your BFF, text me during my shift hours if your expect a response. I needed to vent on my way in it’s been excuses and changes everyday for the past 1.5 months.

Her being the mom means she gets to do what she wants with her kid.

Who cares about what's best for the child? The nanny.

And the mom, who can fire the nanny (also because she wants to). Be careful.

[Anonymous]

Some parents do care about their children. On the other hand, some parents care mostly about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Wait, this is a share? Talk to the other mother, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a nanny share right now and both moms are pregnant one is due in two weeks the other is due in 2 months and I'm really concerned about how the Dynamics will change so I definitely understand where you're coming from one mom is taking 4 months off while the other mom is taking 6 months off and it's about to be winter which means everyone may be stranded in the house and I just feel like it's going to be a lot of Chaos, attitudes and more just trying to figure out how to deal with the stress of it all. When I had my daughter I was not as fragile as other parents seem to be they already complained about not being able to shower brush their teeth feed themselves it wasn't that hard for me when my daughter was a newborn so I really don't understand why people struggle as much as they do

It's call entitlement or as my grandmother would say, "just shiftless and lazy to the bone."

[Anonymous]

OP was quite clear that this mom is causing chaos during a SHARE and outings for the two SHARE children. I agree with one of the PPs, OP, talk to the other mom. However. I would go a bit further and let both sets of parents know that you will need to look for a different position if this one mom keeps being disruptive. Having a mom in maternity leave screw everything up for just her child is one thing, but it’s totally different from getting both older kids off the schedule in a share. You won’t have a reasonable chance of quickly and successfully incorporating the new infant in after maternity leave if both toddlers are no longer on schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maternity leave and the new baby is always a huge adjustment for everyone. Nanny here and as long as you have guaranteed hours (being paid from this time to this time on these days) your employer can give you as erratic schedule as she chooses - those are her hours. As for the disruption to your older child’s schedule, this is absolutely something you need to discuss with her as it is detrimental to her older child.

Don’t answer texts after a certain time, OP. Your employer is postpartum and probably up all night with the newborn and is texting you things so she doesn’t forget. A little patience and sympathy will go a long way.

I fully agree with this.

~career nanny

[Anonymous]

Given that it is a share, I would email both families about your plans/schedule for the week, Larla can join or stay home with her mother, but stick with your schedule. Is the share at the mom on maternity leave’s home? Is the other child missing activities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other way to look at this is that it's very nice of them to pay you what I assume is your normal rate during a time when they don't actually NEED childcare. I would prefer to keep my DD home while I'm home with the new baby but I don't want to mess with my nanny's livelihood like that..

At this point money doesn't matter when you're creating chaos. If want to keep your child home while on maternity leave, let the SHARE know and we can find someone to replace you during this time. Especially in the area that we're in, its tons of parents who need short term or part time care.