Forgot nanny's birthday

[Anonymous]

But she remembered mine today and bought me flowers.
It was her birthday last month and I have been so caught up in my divorce that it slipped my mind. I only remembered today when she came in with a gift for me.
Do I acknowledge I missed it and apologize? I feel very embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Yes, surprise her!

[Anonymous]

Acknowledge that you missed it and apologize. I am sure she knows what you are going through and understands. Get her a better gift than normal and write a heartfelt note of appreciation.

[Anonymous]

You are going through a divorce and this means that the nanny is also going through your divorce. She has taken care of your children, comforted them, and given them stabilty and you are so selfish that you didn't even give her a birthday card! Belated birthday greetings/presents simply say, "you aren't important enough in my life.". You are a selfish jerk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going through a divorce and this means that the nanny is also going through your divorce. She has taken care of your children, comforted them, and given them stabilty and you are so selfish that you didn't even give her a birthday card! Belated birthday greetings/presents simply say, "you aren't important enough in my life.". You are a selfish jerk

Effect on the nanny notwithstanding, it's a lot worse for the parent than the nanny. You are not a selfish jerk, you just had a lot on your plate and messed up. Explain it that way and give the nanny a belated gift. I'm sure she'll understand given the cirumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are going through a divorce and this means that the nanny is also going through your divorce. She has taken care of your children, comforted them, and given them stabilty and you are so selfish that you didn't even give her a birthday card! Belated birthday greetings/presents simply say, "you aren't important enough in my life.". You are a selfish jerk

No, OP, isn’t a selfish jerk. She is just a human in a stressful time in her life.

-signed, a nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Acknowledge that you missed it and apologize. I am sure she knows what you are going through and understands. Get her a better gift than normal and write a heartfelt note of appreciation.

This OP.

You're human - it's ok.