Figuring out when to quit
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Anonymous
| My current job isn’t terrible, but we have some long-term communication issues that aren’t going to get better. I have been here for 3 years, working 60+ hours per week. I am burnt out and frustrated and demoralized. I want to quit before I become incapable of doing my job well. I was planning to leave around Christmas since DB is starting a new job and kids are starting a new school/preschool, so giving them all a few months to adjust seemed best. But DB has some time off between jobs and is making his dissatisfaction with everything I do wuite obvious (chronic micromanager and bad at positive feedback). Maybe it would be better to let him know now that I am planning to leave so her can use this extra time to search for a new nanny? |
Anonymous
| Give two weeks notice now and be prepared to be fired on the spot. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| How quickly would you like to leave? Give them more than 2 weeks, which it seems like you would do, and do it right away if you are ready to leave soon. What are the communication issues and is the micromanagement new? |
Anonymous
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Give as much notice as time you can be out of work. Parents have been known to fire nannies on the spot if they quit.
I would also suggest finding a new position before you give notice. If you are going to be a nanny, usually a newborn gives the most leeway as the mother is on maternity leave. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Contractually I have to give 4 weeks notice. I am not in a rush, but I can feel that things are going downhill and I’d rather leave while there is no bad blood. Communication issues boil down to the fact that both parents don’t communicate with me much, but DB especially never replies to anything I send or at least not until weeks later. The only time we ever get to go over anything is at the end of my 13 hour shift and no, I don’t want to stay and talk (unpaid). I want to go home. I have offered to chat during the day when kids are in camp or napping but he always forgets. I have also offered to meet once a month for a planned-ahead checkup after my shift, for which I would charge, but he can’t get it together to schedule one ahead of time, and MB doesn’t want us meeting without her and she’s never free then anyway. So I can either communicate on his terms or not at all. If they were just hands-off parents then I could deal. MB is like that. She reads my weekly update email (telling them about stuff coming up and things I am doing with kids and changes to schedule, etc.) promptly most of the time but if she forgets and I move forward with whatever i think is best she’s like, “I trust your judgement and you tried to get my feedback in advance so whatever you picked is fine.” She wants to enjoy time on the weekends with her kids and she doesn’t care about the nitty-gritty of whether we are in this or that summer camp as long as everyone is having fun. DB responds even less often than she does but then when he finally catches up 3 weeks later he wants to nitpick everything I am doing. I feel like I can’t move forward without his feedback but I also never get any feedback until it’s too late. |
Anonymous
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If you can afford it AND you find your job unbearable, then yes you should give your boss notice stat.
Your mental well-being should always be at the top of your priority list, each + every single day. Good luck. 
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Anonymous
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Have you talked to DB about this communication issue? 13 hours is a long day; personally I work 10 hour days and am exhausted by my end time and cannot imagine hanging around for longer than 5 minutes to catch up.
60 hours is a lot - are you sure the long week isn’t compounding an issue that a less overworked nanny might be able to handle? Is there any way they could hire another nanny to take some of the pressure off? At 13 hours you are with your NKs from wake up to bedtime by yourself and that seems like a lot. |
Anonymous
| Then you have your answer - give four weeks notice. |