Very disappointed

[Anonymous]

I am working with a family almost two years. They are going to send my charge to pre school. They told me today to find another job by the end of August.
I am so much stressed. I don’t think I could find a family who will love me and pay me like them.
Just wanted to cry I love my charge so much and the family paid me well. They are very nice and respectful to me.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry, OP. This is the worst part about being a nanny.

[Anonymous]

They are nice and respectful but didn't tell you beforehand that the kid is going to preschool ... that's terrible from them.

[Anonymous]

I understand that you must have been caught off-guard OP.

I am truly sorry for your bad news.

Perhaps you can still babysit him on weekends on occasion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am working with a family almost two years. They are going to send my charge to pre school. They told me today to find another job by the end of August.
I am so much stressed. I don’t think I could find a family who will love me and pay me like them.
Just wanted to cry I love my charge so much and the family paid me well. They are very nice and respectful to me.

Transitions are hard, but having until the end of August is a pretty good amount of notice (5-6 weeks). As you acknowledge, nanny care is expensive, and families with only one child tend to transition to all day preschool when they can; it's also an opportunity for an only child to learn to play with other children. If they found you to be a good nanny, I'm sure they will provide a good reference so you can find a new family. Unless you are working under the table, you should not worry about finding another job you like equally well. If you make it clear you would like to see the child or babysit for date nights, other occasions, your current family will probably take you up on it. All will be well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are nice and respectful but didn't tell you beforehand that the kid is going to preschool ... that's terrible from them.

Sounds like they gave her more than six weeks notice. It's sad to have a job end but this is hardly "terrible" treatment. This is a very very common transition.

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened to me after the parents swore they would never consider daycare. I was the child’s nanny from two months until he was two and only given two weeks notice. I was devastated! Luckily I have been able to see him every week since then and found a much, much better job with a newborn whom I also love dearly (she is now 2.5). But I still remember feeling so totally blindsided.

So sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are nice and respectful but didn't tell you beforehand that the kid is going to preschool ... that's terrible from them.

Sounds like they gave her more than six weeks notice. It's sad to have a job end but this is hardly "terrible" treatment. This is a very very common transition.

+1 we just did this and gave over a months notice wich our nanny said was generous. And often you don’t find out if you got a spot until the summer.

[Anonymous]

such is life as a nanny/caretaker when the kids become of age. They gave you plenty of notice - I'm sure you'll find another family.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP - sounds like you have a great bond so it's not surprising that you are grieving. Just remember that there are lots of awesome families out there who need good helpers, and that you are bound to find one.

I remember that it was a hard transition for us too - we loved our nanny so much (and she is still a part of the family in our case), but we wanted our dd to have more time with other kids and were lucky that she got a spot at a great school during our 1st try at the lottery. In our case, we told the nanny in March that dd would be starting school that August and were glad that she stayed on with us til then.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry, OP. It is inevitable but always heartbreaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand that you must have been caught off-guard OP.

I am truly sorry for your bad news.

Perhaps you can still babysit him on weekends on occasion?

It is so nice to babysit for people who have screwed you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand that you must have been caught off-guard OP.

I am truly sorry for your bad news.

Perhaps you can still babysit him on weekends on occasion?

It is so nice to babysit for people who have screwed you!

How have they s reward you? And if you truly love your charge, you will jump at the chance to see him/her again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand that you must have been caught off-guard OP.

I am truly sorry for your bad news.

Perhaps you can still babysit him on weekends on occasion?

It is so nice to babysit for people who have screwed you!

How have they s reward you? And if you truly love your charge, you will jump at the chance to see him/her again.

OP's MB could have told her six months ago that they would be sending child to day care. She didn't because she wanted OP to stay until she no longer needed her! This is unconscionable. The best thing for OP to do is move forward with her life. If she does go back for babysitting, she will go back to square one Everytime she sees child and the pain will start all over again. Like a love affair that has ended, you move on and never look back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand that you must have been caught off-guard OP.

I am truly sorry for your bad news.

Perhaps you can still babysit him on weekends on occasion?

It is so nice to babysit for people who have screwed you!

How have they s reward you? And if you truly love your charge, you will jump at the chance to see him/her again.

OP's MB could have told her six months ago that they would be sending child to day care. She didn't because she wanted OP to stay until she no longer needed her! This is unconscionable. The best thing for OP to do is move forward with her life. If she does go back for babysitting, she will go back to square one Everytime she sees child and the pain will start all over again. Like a love affair that has ended, you move on and never look back.

That is not true, PP. Every child is going to end up going to school at some point - it is certainly not “unconscionable” to do the inevitable.

And as a nanny who always sees (visits, babysits) former charges, it is good for them to know that the nanny they loved never abandoned them. My former charges are all happy and healthy and know what they felt for their nanny (me) was real and sustained.