MB and DB are slobs

[Anonymous]

MB and DB always leave their dishes anywhere they eat. There’s always a ton of dishes all over the house. They hardly ever load or unload the ddishwasher and it’s always up to me to do it. They also never bring in the garbage bins after trash day. So, when I empty out the diaper pail, I have to leave the bag outside near the garage. They live in a mountain type area and they have a long driveway so it’s not so easy to bring the garbge bins back in, which is why they never bring them in. Or when the kitchen garbage bin is full, I also have to leave the bag by the garage. They also leave plastic, cardboard boxes and all types of bottles (wine bottles, cans, etc) all over the house. It’s starting to get on my nerves because my charge is 8 months old and is very active and likes to grab anything in his way. Is there anything I can say or do to encourage them to be more clean or at least bring the garbage bins in?
Apparently a coyote ripped up the diaper pail bag I had left out this past Fridayand left dirty diapers all over the drive way. DB send me the camera footage this Saturday. I texted back saying I was sorry and that next time I would leave the bag INSIDE the garage since the bins are never brought in. He never texted me back and seemed pretty upset in the texts. I really don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to bring in the garbage bins So I don’t want to start doing it because then they’ll get used to it

Dishes and recycling is also becoming a problem and it’s really hard to work and navigate a home like this with an 8 month old baby.

Any thoughts or tips would be appreciated, but this post is more for me venting. Thank you

[Anonymous]

I would let them know that you would appreciate having access to the garbage bins. That if they want you to take out the dirty diapers and trash, that you need to have the bins pulled up close to the house.

[Anonymous]

I also wasn’t responsible for the trash and dishwasher, but, it has gradually become my responsibility. I told them that if they expect me to take out the trash then I need to be able to access the bins. Still not happy about everything behind left for me on a Monday, but that’s another issue.

[Anonymous]

This is highly unlikely to change. Even messy people that genuinely want to become neat and clean struggle with keeping it up, and it doesn’t sound like becoming neat and clean is a huge priority for them.

I would look around and decide if they changed 1-2 small things (say, bringing in the garbage bins and not leaving glass bottles around), could you accept and embrace the rest and what that means for your role? If so, talk to them about those 1-2 things. If not, I would start looking for a new position or find a way to make things manageable from your end (bring in a big bin and corral all dishes in there and put it in the garage?? Lol I don’t even know. You’ll need to do more cleaning than you want).

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like your bosses are simply “assuming” that you will eventually start bringing up the garbage bins.

I agree -
Do not start doing it or major job creep will definitely set in.

It is the parent’s responsibility to provide you access to a trash receptacle (that doesn’t include walking up or down a long path to get access!)

This family is just a very sloppy family & I, being an organized neatnik couldn’t function well in such a daily, chaotic environment.
However if the house is bearable for you, I would just continue pestering your bosses to get their act together until they finally do.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Sit down and talk about specifics - like the trash. Be firm in what you will not or cannot do.

But they will always be pigs. People don’t change.

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows you don't put trash outside not in a bin or an animal will get to it. Their house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone knows you don't put trash outside not in a bin or an animal will get to it. Their house.

I know. I did it ok purpose. When DB texted me I said “I left it out because the trash bins are never brought in after trash day.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like your bosses are simply “assuming” that you will eventually start bringing up the garbage bins.

I agree -
Do not start doing it or major job creep will definitely set in.

It is the parent’s responsibility to provide you access to a trash receptacle (that doesn’t include walking up or down a long path to get access!)

This family is just a very sloppy family & I, being an organized neatnik couldn’t function well in such a daily, chaotic environment.
However if the house is bearable for you, I would just continue pestering your bosses to get their act together until they finally do.

Good luck!

House is definitely not bearable. It’s a 4000 sq ft home that gets cleaned once once a month. Toilets are disgusting as older charges are boys. Kitchen is always dirty as well because they cook a lot. The house is just really hard to work in. But they pay well and are generally nice people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like your bosses are simply “assuming” that you will eventually start bringing up the garbage bins.

I agree -
Do not start doing it or major job creep will definitely set in.

It is the parent’s responsibility to provide you access to a trash receptacle (that doesn’t include walking up or down a long path to get access!)

This family is just a very sloppy family & I, being an organized neatnik couldn’t function well in such a daily, chaotic environment.
However if the house is bearable for you, I would just continue pestering your bosses to get their act together until they finally do.

Good luck!

House is definitely not bearable. It’s a 4000 sq ft home that gets cleaned once once a month. Toilets are disgusting as older charges are boys. Kitchen is always dirty as well because they cook a lot. The house is just really hard to work in. But they pay well and are generally nice people.

Why not just tidy up some while the baby is napping? It takes like 20 minutes max to gather dishes, put them in the dishwasher, straighten up kitchen counters and spray and wipe them so you have a clear surface for the day.

Trash bags you should probably just leave inside the garage. No need to be passive aggressive with your NF by leaving them outside on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Leave. Take pics/video so for your next job interview you can say the conditions were appalling and unhealthy. They will never change. In future, remember that your job is to take care of children not filthy adults.

Personally, I would not even bother with notice but just get your check, cash, and send email or text that you will not be back and say why.

No one has to work in filth. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB and DB always leave their dishes anywhere they eat. There’s always a ton of dishes all over the house. They hardly ever load or unload the ddishwasher and it’s always up to me to do it. They also never bring in the garbage bins after trash day. So, when I empty out the diaper pail, I have to leave the bag outside near the garage. They live in a mountain type area and they have a long driveway so it’s not so easy to bring the garbge bins back in, which is why they never bring them in. Or when the kitchen garbage bin is full, I also have to leave the bag by the garage. They also leave plastic, cardboard boxes and all types of bottles (wine bottles, cans, etc) all over the house. It’s starting to get on my nerves because my charge is 8 months old and is very active and likes to grab anything in his way. Is there anything I can say or do to encourage them to be more clean or at least bring the garbage bins in?
Apparently a coyote ripped up the diaper pail bag I had left out this past Fridayand left dirty diapers all over the drive way. DB send me the camera footage this Saturday. I texted back saying I was sorry and that next time I would leave the bag INSIDE the garage since the bins are never brought in. He never texted me back and seemed pretty upset in the texts. I really don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to bring in the garbage bins So I don’t want to start doing it because then they’ll get used to it

Dishes and recycling is also becoming a problem and it’s really hard to work and navigate a home like this with an 8 month old baby.

Any thoughts or tips would be appreciated, but this post is more for me venting. Thank you

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Find a new family? Seriously, though, this screams lack of respect and even if you politely bring it up with them, more likely than not they will grow more agitated with you. I would look for a new family.

[Anonymous]

I work for a family just like this. Every glass,bottle, dish,bowl, etc. they use is all over the house with crumbs and food in them. I've never brought it up because they're a nice family. I don't mind the housekeeping when I have the time but with 2 and 4 yr olds running around it's hard to get to everything like laundry,organizing,etc. sometimes. When MB asks why all the laundry isn't put away I just tell her that I couldn't get to it because 2 yr old was having tantrum and needed to be calmed down or something. I can only do what I can do and she seems fine with it. I know what you're talking about though. It's awful to walk in and see the mess after you've worked so hard the previous day to get things in order.

[Anonymous]

I work for a family just like this. Every glass,bottle, dish,bowl, etc. they use is all over the house with crumbs and food in them. I've never brought it up because they're a nice family. I don't mind the housekeeping when I have the time but with 2 and 4 yr olds running around it's hard to get to everything like laundry,organizing,etc. sometimes. When MB asks why all the laundry isn't put away I just tell her that I couldn't get to it because 2 yr old was having tantrum and needed to be calmed down or something. I can only do what I can do and she seems fine with it. I know what you're talking about though. It's awful to walk in and see the mess after you've worked so hard the previous day to get things in order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me like your bosses are simply “assuming” that you will eventually start bringing up the garbage bins.

I agree -
Do not start doing it or major job creep will definitely set in.

It is the parent’s responsibility to provide you access to a trash receptacle (that doesn’t include walking up or down a long path to get access!)

This family is just a very sloppy family & I, being an organized neatnik couldn’t function well in such a daily, chaotic environment.
However if the house is bearable for you, I would just continue pestering your bosses to get their act together until they finally do.

Good luck!

House is definitely not bearable. It’s a 4000 sq ft home that gets cleaned once once a month. Toilets are disgusting as older charges are boys. Kitchen is always dirty as well because they cook a lot. The house is just really hard to work in. But they pay well and are generally nice people.

I know you keep saying they're generally nice people but I read your posts and think, gosh, they sound like shitty people and shitty parents. No good person is that assuming that they leave everything a mess for someone else to clean up. If they don't clean up after themselves now, they never will. Same goes for their kids. Obviously they have no interest in wanting their boys to be respectful so it sounds like they let them run amok. This quickly good get out of control for you.