Whatever happened to the nanny of autistic twin boys who was forced to quit?

[Anonymous]

Are you still on the forum, Nanny? Your employers parents requested to take the twins out without you and one got lost. Your employer was furious and blamed you.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP.

I’m currently working with another set of twins that are now 7 months old. I am so happy in this position and feel so appreciated and trusted by my employers. I’m also making about $12,000 more a year so win/win.

Leaving my position with my old family was absolutely the hardest thing I’ve been through as a nanny. I was and still am very attached to those boys and loved them beyond words. At the time of the incident, I really had a hard time coping and felt like a failure. After I left and started with my new family, I realized how stressful and under appreciated I had been for almost three years.

So it ended up working out, but I won’t say I’m totally over it. I don’t talk to my old MB and haven’t seen the boys in months. I received some less than kind e-mails a few weeks after quitting and it hit me hard but I had to remember that it wasn’t about me.

I am kept in the loop about how old nanny family is doing because I’m friendly with her neighbor (I use to babysit her children). They’ve gone through two nannies and now her mother is living with them and I think they have a college aged nanny there part-time to help out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP.

I’m currently working with another set of twins that are now 7 months old. I am so happy in this position and feel so appreciated and trusted by my employers. I’m also making about $12,000 more a year so win/win.

Leaving my position with my old family was absolutely the hardest thing I’ve been through as a nanny. I was and still am very attached to those boys and loved them beyond words. At the time of the incident, I really had a hard time coping and felt like a failure. After I left and started with my new family, I realized how stressful and under appreciated I had been for almost three years.

So it ended up working out, but I won’t say I’m totally over it. I don’t talk to my old MB and haven’t seen the boys in months. I received some less than kind e-mails a few weeks after quitting and it hit me hard but I had to remember that it wasn’t about me.

I am kept in the loop about how old nanny family is doing because I’m friendly with her neighbor (I use to babysit her children). They’ve gone through two nannies and now her mother is living with them and I think they have a college aged nanny there part-time to help out.

I am so happy for you that you found a better position! Your old employer was simply horrid.

Thanks so much for the update. I am so sorry you had to go through that ordeal.

[Anonymous]

Would love to know what she had the audacity to say to you.

[Anonymous]

I am happy for you, OP! Thank you for posting. Your employer was so dead wrong and awful. You deserve a great job with a family smart enough to see how great you are.

[Anonymous]

You have to know that your memorable first post had MBs and nannies alike squarely on your side. I am sorry you still miss your former charge’s but so happy you got a much, much better job.

[Anonymous]

I am glad you got a new position where you feel appreciated and are fairly compensated. I am so sorry for how horridly you were treated and how gutting the end was. It seems like the end is always heart wrenching to some degree, even when you know the end date and everything is going well. Seems like it's the hardest when you're not sure the kids are in good hands after you leave.

I left my first nanny job under strained circumstances and it probably took a year, at least, for the pain to subside substantially. Seven years out and I'm completely fine and can see (and learn from) mistakes I made, and it's helped me learn what to screen for when interviewing, how to be a better person/nanny on my end etc. Overall, it was really hard when it was happening, but completely invaluable as a life lesson.