Do nannies discuss bonuses?

[Anonymous]

I adore my nanny, who has been with me a few months. I was thinking of giving her a $500 special bonus. I have friends in the neighborhood who also have nannies. How likely is it that my nanny will mention this to the other nannies? I don't want those nannies to feel jealous or resentful toward their own bosses. Just wondering how freely nannies discuss compensation. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I always discuss salary and other benefits with other nannies. I wouldn’t get jealous if another nanny got a bonus and i didn’t. I would be happy for them that their employer recognizes their hard work!

[Anonymous]

of course. the same way people do in every profession. asking employees not to discuss salary is illegal (not suggesting you'd do that).

[Anonymous]

I would never mention a bonus or my salary with another nanny.

[Anonymous]

I have never mentioned my salary or any bonus/benefits to other nannies and have never been asked.

[Anonymous]

I wish I find a family like you,if this is true...

[Anonymous]

I have never mentioned my salary or bonuses to any other nanny - ever. It never came up in conversation and I have never been asked.

It would feel like bragging if I talked about a bonus.

Why does it matter, OP?

[Anonymous]

You want your nanny to be happy and feel valued. That needs to be your only concern.

[Anonymous]

This isn't something I'd be likely to discuss...but then I'm a bit older than a lot of nannies, and I don't live in an area with lots of nannies.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I understand how you feel about your nanny but consider waiting until the end of the year to give her a substantial monetary bonus, unless you feel that you are underpaying her. You are setting a precedent when you give out bonuses for performance. I would not concern myself with what she shares with the nannies or anyone else.