Should I tell MB this makes me *very* uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

MB is very sweet. She’s Type A, very kind and super affectionate. I am more reserved and generally not comfortable with physical affection. Especially in a work setting.

Yesterday morning MB was kissing my Nks (10-month-old twins) goodbye, they were in my arms and she kissed them both on the forehead and then kissed me on the foreheads. I didn’t expect it and kind of nervously laughed. She said, “and goodbye to you!” She laughed and I know she meant it innocently, she’s just like that but... it made me uncomfortable. She’s very touchy, and today she did the same thing when she left. I don’t want her to think this is ok, but don’t know how to respectfully ask her to stop.

Advice?

[Anonymous]

*forhead not foreheads. I only have one.

[Anonymous]

When she's about to leave, make sure you put the babies down and back away. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

“MB, I hope this won’t offend you, but I have a really large personal bubble with adults, even ones I like as much as I like you, and I’d really rather you not kiss me.”

[Anonymous]

Stop holding the babies when she's leaving.

[Anonymous]

Or get over it. Lots of cultures kiss goodbye. She is being sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or get over it. Lots of cultures kiss goodbye. She is being sweet.

And what if her DB kissed her goodbye?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she just did it impulsively while in the midst of pecking her kids with a kiss. Like stamping something in an assembly line by mistake. Seeing as how this has only occurred once, I wouldn’t stress this being some issue you have to be concerned about.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. I would have been surprised but doing it once would have been funny.
I wouldn't let it happen every day though, so when you feel she's about to leave the house, just put the kids on the floor.

[Anonymous]

I think it is sweet. My MB is pretty cold at times and I wish she were more like your MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she just did it impulsively while in the midst of pecking her kids with a kiss. Like stamping something in an assembly line by mistake. Seeing as how this has only occurred once, I wouldn’t stress this being some issue you have to be concerned about.

Read the OP. She did it two days in a row.

[Anonymous]

Just put your hand on your forehead and laugh, "no kiss for me today!"

[Anonymous]

Ugh, that’s a tricky situation. I have to agree with the two PPs who said to make sure the babies are put down and that you are a good distance away, preferably busying yourself with something if possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, that’s a tricky situation. I have to agree with the two PPs who said to make sure the babies are put down and that you are a good distance away, preferably busying yourself with something if possible.

+1 It's tricky because you don't want to offend her and get fired.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. This is tricky. She's very demonstrative with affection, but she doesn't realize that other people are not comfortable with it. I would first try what the PP suggested and use humor to avoid it, and hopefully that will work. Maybe try to busy yourself with a quick task while she's saying goodbye, or say I'll use this opportunity to run to the restroom really fast. Maybe try different things each day so she won't get offended, and at some point she'll not even? think about doing it. Good luck, OP.