Nanny gave notice after only 2 weeks!

[Anonymous]

She's says my children are too difficult. I have a soon to be 2 year old and 5 month old. She said she will be happy to take care of the baby but the toddler is too hard. He's a handful and he doesn't really nap during the day. I can't miss work and I don't know what to do!

[Anonymous]

Find another nanny fast. It happens - she wasn't the right fit.

[Anonymous]

Troll. Nanny already posted. Or are both trolls?

[Anonymous]

If you think your two year old who isn't napping is a "handful", the problem is *you*.

Are you undisciplined in your parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you think your two year old who isn't napping is a "handful", the problem is *you*.

Are you undisciplined in your parenting?

Op here. We have tried everything. He will only sleep in the car. It's not possible for the nanny to carry a toddler and baby in the elevator up to our condo. She has to take him outside all morning but it's been hard doing that with a baby. The baby needs his milk warm. I'm just so shocked she didn't give any notice at all.

[Anonymous]

First, OP, she didn't "give notice" - she quit. ""Give notice" means she gave you two weeks notice (or whatever time frame previously agreed upon) to find a replacement.

Second, it happens. She probably got a better job offer after she accepted your position.

Third, you really have to explain to your next set of applicants how difficult your older child is. Do not sugar-coat it.

[Anonymous]

I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's says my children are too difficult. I have a soon to be 2 year old and 5 month old. She said she will be happy to take care of the baby but the toddler is too hard. He's a handful and he doesn't really nap during the day. I can't miss work and I don't know what to do!

Your nanny already posted if this is her....”Somehow I thought I could handle my 2 year old toddler, another toddler and a 4 month old baby. My 2 year old charge is very difficult. He's jumping and throwing toys all day long. He won't take a nap. It's just so awful and really hard. The mom pulled him out of daycare last week. I feel so bad but she's been really open with me. She had asked me if it's too much a few times. This is my first week when I will have the other toddler full time. I can handle the baby and my toddler. It's hard to handle 2 but 3 is pretty much impossible. I hope I can make it through this week. I am already dreaming of riding off into the sunset and it's only Monday.” She also mentions the child bangs his head on the sofa and walls. No nanny is going to want to deal with that on top of no naps and an infant.

She also said you were understanding. So who is lying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's says my children are too difficult. I have a soon to be 2 year old and 5 month old. She said she will be happy to take care of the baby but the toddler is too hard. He's a handful and he doesn't really nap during the day. I can't miss work and I don't know what to do!

Your nanny already posted if this is her....”Somehow I thought I could handle my 2 year old toddler, another toddler and a 4 month old baby. My 2 year old charge is very difficult. He's jumping and throwing toys all day long. He won't take a nap. It's just so awful and really hard. The mom pulled him out of daycare last week. I feel so bad but she's been really open with me. She had asked me if it's too much a few times. This is my first week when I will have the other toddler full time. I can handle the baby and my toddler. It's hard to handle 2 but 3 is pretty much impossible. I hope I can make it through this week. I am already dreaming of riding off into the sunset and it's only Monday.” She also mentions the child bangs his head on the sofa and walls. No nanny is going to want to deal with that on top of no naps and an infant.
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She also said you were understanding. So who is lying?

This is not my nanny. She doesn't have a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.

Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.

Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.

I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car.

Can't she put the infant in the stroller and carry the 2-year-old? Or let them both sleep in the car for an hour. It's not the end of the world.

I would never ask her to carry my 2 year old such a long distance. That's absurd.

Huh? Is this OP? I thought you said it was just up the elevator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a charge who wouldn’t sleep long and I started doing more activities in the morning to tire her out and now she cries for about 2 minutes and is out for almost 2-3 hrs now. She also use to get put down early and now I’ve extended the time so she’s going to sleep an 1-1.5 hrs later than what her parents use to put her down. I also would try my hardest not to let her sleep in the stroller and if she did fall asleep she would just get about 10 minutes and parents were okay with that.

As for the infant, I would start whining him or her off of warm bottles and start offering room temperature. This way, the nanny can get out the house. Do you have a double stroller or stroller and baby carrier? I’m not sure why it’s hard for the nanny to use the elevator. I take a double stroller up and down the stairs and on the metro everyday.

It really sounds like nanny is a little lazy. Two weeks? She hasn’t even given it time to try and work things out or get the 2 yr old on a schedule. I know it’s frustrating, but you may find a nanny who knows what they’re doing.

The nanny can't carry two children at the same time up the elevator. My son will wake up if he's transferred out of the car

It’s going to take time now because he’s older but you may need to sleep train him. If nanny is still around, you need to come up with a plan. Another charge of mines (in a nanny share) she doesn’t like to take naps everyday but her mom wants her to have “down time.” She goes in her crib with books, stuffed animals and she stays in there for 2 hours with the sound machine on and lights off. Sometimes she cries on and off or falls asleep after an hour or so; and sometimes she would just talk to her animals the whole time- she’s 22 months.

[Anonymous]

Find a temp nanny.