Any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I am with a family it’s almost two years. I asked my employer I am looking for another part time job. Since, I need more money.
My employer (husband) is happy to give me more hours but the wife is not agree. I have very good relationship with both. The husband work and wife is stayed home. I work M to F. Some time the wants me to work on Sunday as well.
Some time they want me to work on Sunday some time not.
I am confused to find a weekend job.
What’s your thoughts? Do all employer ( The wives) are selfish like that and the husbands are nice.
How I can bring up the subject about Sunday’s?
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and find a weekend job. You work your Monday thru Friday job with your current family and no more. Better for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Op here, they wants me to work on Sundays whenever they need me for Sunday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, they wants me to work on Sundays whenever they need me for Sunday

If you are not guaranteed for Sunday, you have nothing to worry about. Get your weekend job.

[Anonymous]

+1. Get a weekend job if they don't want to guarantee you Sundays. Just tell them you're no longer available on the weekends--totally reasonable. We had our nanny (in a share) MT/ThF. Sometimes one or the other family would ask for Wednesdays. Then she got a job on Wednesday afternoons, and that was 100% okay, because neither of us needed Wednesdays consistently and the options are either guarantee it or accept that it's not available to you.

[Anonymous]

Just what the others said: get a weekend job. If they ask you for Sunday, say you're not available.

[Anonymous]

They can find someone else for occasional Sundays. But you also said you need more hours. Maybe you need another job altogether.

However, do you really believe all women are awful and all men are nice? That's kind of ... sexist and terrible.

[Anonymous]

Don’t assume the mother is selfish just because she hasn’t offered you more work than was originally agreed to.
That attitude might be why she doesn’t want you around

[Anonymous]

She's not selfish - she is asking for what she wants and is willing to pay for what she wants. Just go get a weekend job and then tell them "I have taken a weekend job so won't be available on Sundays anymore. I wanted to let you know so you can line someone else up for the occasional Sunday you do need someone."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am with a family it’s almost two years. I asked my employer I am looking for another part time job. Since, I need more money.
My employer (husband) is happy to give me more hours but the wife is not agree. I have very good relationship with both. The husband work and wife is stayed home. I work M to F. Some time the wants me to work on Sunday as well.
Some time they want me to work on Sunday some time not.
I am confused to find a weekend job.
What’s your thoughts? Do all employer ( The wives) are selfish like that and the husbands are nice.
How I can bring up the subject about Sunday’s?
Thanks

The wife is not selfish, OP, she just wants to spend time with her family. It is not all about you.

Just tell your employers that you are looking for a weekend job and will no longer be available on Sundays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can find someone else for occasional Sundays. But you also said you need more hours. Maybe you need another job altogether.

However, do you really believe all women are awful and all men are nice? That's kind of ... sexist and terrible.

Op here , no I don’t believe in that . That’s why I wanted to know what others think about that.
I am women so I do my best to help others. So , I believe every women is like that. I agree I am wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t assume the mother is selfish just because she hasn’t offered you more work than was originally agreed to.
That attitude might be why she doesn’t want you around

Op here I don’t think she don’t want me to be around. Since, I cook for the family, clean and my charge is happily with me. If she is active then yes she don’t want me to be around. Unfortunately, she is lazy. Her husband don’t want to lose me service. Since, the poor husband have to cook.
If I do all tasks during my charge then no reason she give me more hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not selfish - she is asking for what she wants and is willing to pay for what she wants. Just go get a weekend job and then tell them "I have taken a weekend job so won't be available on Sundays anymore. I wanted to let you know so you can line someone else up for the occasional Sunday you do need someone."

Op here, thanks I agree with your post

[Anonymous]

Tell them, “I need to work EVERY Sunday in order to meet my goals. We can handle this two ways: 1) I find a regular weekend job and you find other sitters to come on the weekends or 2) You decide to hire me for Sundays and I work for you every Sunday. What would work for you?”

[Anonymous]

Just find a weekend job, OP, and stop whining about your employer. Who cares why she doesn't want you to work on Sunday - the fact is that she doesn't want you work on Sunday.