An au pair applied for the nanny job I advertised

[Anonymous]

I gave up on the au pair program after a terrible first au pair and a slightly better (but still not great) rematch. Now I'm trying to hire a full-time professional nanny for my kids. An au pair applied to my care.com job listing, and she has a profile on care.com seeking full-time work. Should I report her to the agency? I feel like she deserves it for being dumb enough to do something blatantly illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave up on the au pair program after a terrible first au pair and a slightly better (but still not great) rematch. Now I'm trying to hire a full-time professional nanny for my kids. An au pair applied to my care.com job listing, and she has a profile on care.com seeking full-time work. Should I report her to the agency? I feel like she deserves it for being dumb enough to do something blatantly illegal.

I would report to both agency and Dept of State. Agency may not do anything if DoS is not involved.

[Anonymous]

How are you going to proove that she's an Au pair? Btw that's how it ends because stipend is low.

[Anonymous]

Do I need to prove that she's an au pair? I know what agency she's with (not hard to find when she is in their FB groups). I could easily email them and the State Department a screenshot of her care.com profile seeking full-time employment. Then it's the agency's problem.

Yes, au pairs, the Olds know how to use the internet, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you going to proove that she's an Au pair? Btw that's how it ends because stipend is low.

That's a naive answer. That's how it ends because people come to the USA and either never plan to go back home, or they meet someone and then decide to overstay. People will work for peanuts for the opportunity to stay in this country. If they are so unhappy and underpaid, they can always pack up and go home. But no, they decide to stay and work illegally. Your answer makes no sense.

OP, I have been in your situation. AP or not, you will have people living here illegally responding to your post. Unless you make it your mission to report them, let it go. Put on your profile that you intend to pay on the books and none of them will answer your ad.

[Anonymous]

It's not because you've had two au pairs that were terrible that you need to report this one. You don't know anything about her personal story. Maybe she's done with the programme and can work legally (because she got married for instance).
Maybe she has decided to stay in the US illegally because her life back home is terrible. Who are you to judge?
Maybe she would be a wonderful nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not because you've had two au pairs that were terrible that you need to report this one. You don't know anything about her personal story. Maybe she's done with the programme and can work legally (because she got married for instance).
Maybe she has decided to stay in the US illegally because her life back home is terrible. Who are you to judge?
Maybe she would be a wonderful nanny.

APs want to follow the rules when it benefits them and not follow the program rules other times. No one is judging, just following the rules set out in the program. And OP said she is currently an AP not a former AP (as she would have if AP got married).

[Anonymous]

Many people in the US don't realize they have it good, they can't understand for one second that you can come from a very poor place and want a better life.

So, while I agree you shouldn't hire a current AP because it's against the rules, I don't think it's the right thing to do to report her.

[Anonymous]

I'd say leave it be. I think your karma will be better if you let this go.

[Anonymous]

Just swipe left.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to let it go, you could message her and say that you know she's an au pair, and you aren't going to report her, but she should know that someone else might.

But I'm also wondering how you know she hasn't changed her visa status since her au pair year. I still participate in fb groups for organizations in places I no longer live, for example.

[Anonymous]

The agency doesn't care. I've learned more things from my current AP when her friends have gone into rematch. Apparently, agencies issue a plane ticket if you successfully complete your year, but never follow up on whether you were on the plane. If you end up in rematch and the agencies aren't responsible for your plane ticket, they tell you to go home, but don't really do anything more. So yes, I do think this is an issue that agencies are ignoring, so maybe if the DoS got more reports, they would do something about the agencies...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The agency doesn't care. I've learned more things from my current AP when her friends have gone into rematch. Apparently, agencies issue a plane ticket if you successfully complete your year, but never follow up on whether you were on the plane. If you end up in rematch and the agencies aren't responsible for your plane ticket, they tell you to go home, but don't really do anything more. So yes, I do think this is an issue that agencies are ignoring, so maybe if the DoS got more reports, they would do something about the agencies...

I think (at least some) agencies do care. My friend's AP who arrived with her in rematch had an ad up on Care.com (allegedly from when she was unhappy with her previous family) and was given a written warning from the agency that if that ad was not removed in 24 hrs and/or if she was caught doing this again she would be removed from the program and sent home.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed but I wouldn’t report her. Like a pp said, there are a lot of illegals in the childcare field.

[Anonymous]

I think its a weird response to want to report someone. Unless it was your own au pair, I agree you should just continue on your merry way...