MB now chronically late - 5 to 15 minutes every day

[Anonymous]

I love this family and have been their nanny for over two years. I am appreciated and well-paid. My MB and I had a talk early on about how I needed her to be home on time - and she was great about it until recently. It started with just a few minutes late, then five and slowly climbing to 15 minutes. She is extremely busy with work.


WWYD? Start charging for the time? Talk to her again? Just let it slide?

[Anonymous]

I'd ask her if she would like to shift your schedule to end later (& of course, to charge for the extra time). It might be worth the $$ if getting home on time is getting stressful/impossible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd ask her if she would like to shift your schedule to end later (& of course, to charge for the extra time). It might be worth the $$ if getting home on time is getting stressful/impossible.

That is a great idea! Thank you! I don't mind working the extra time I just hate waiting when she is late - it's hard to start anything with my charge.

I am never late btw - not once in over two years

[Anonymous]

You should have been keeping track of all your overtime and paid. Fifteen minutes a day is an hour/15 minutes minutes of OT a week, 5 hours a month, 60 hours of OT a year. A lot of time and money you have been cheated out of.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you get paid extra if she comes home 15 minutes late.

It is unconscionable to think that your MB would overlook fifteen minutes of your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you get paid extra if she comes home 15 minutes late.

It is unconscionable to think that your MB would overlook fifteen minutes of your time.

I think OP and her MB can work out a solution with some extra paid time.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It really isn't the money or the extra time - it is that my charge is waiting for her mother as am I. If she cannot be on time at 5PM perhaps she could be on time at 5:30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It really isn't the money or the extra time - it is that my charge is waiting for her mother as am I. If she cannot be on time at 5PM perhaps she could be on time at 5:30.

Being on time is not something she cares about. As long as you tolerate this behavior, it will continue. Speak up and tell her that you must leave by 5 pm--no exceptions.

[Anonymous]

I wish more late parents understood that their child was waiting for them too.

[Anonymous]

I would ask her if she would like to shift your hours. Tell her that you have been late or all together missed events that you had planned after work and that you need a set schedule. I plan to bring this up with my employers at our one year meeting and ask for twice what I would normally ask for in a raise due to the flexibility that they require. I tally my own OT, but let 5-10 minutes go. If they don’t give me my full raise I will start tallying a weekely total with all OT minutes.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the advice, everyone. Last week when my employer was late again I just asked if she wanted me to start working for an extra half hour and she gratefully said an emphatic, "Yes! Thank you!". It comes out an added $54 a week for me and far less aggravation for me.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the advice, everyone. Last week when my employer was late again I just asked if she wanted me to start working for an extra half hour and she gratefully said an emphatic, "Yes! Thank you!". It comes out an added $54 a week for me and far less aggravation for me.

Thanks!

Perfect!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the advice, everyone. Last week when my employer was late again I just asked if she wanted me to start working for an extra half hour and she gratefully said an emphatic, "Yes! Thank you!". It comes out an added $54 a week for me and far less aggravation for me.

Thanks!

Perfect!

Win-win, OP.

[Anonymous]

So when she starts coming an hour late are you going to stay an hour later? She puts booze ahead of her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So when she starts coming an hour late are you going to stay an hour later? She puts booze ahead of her children.

Sounds like MB is stressed at the end of her day and needs time to unwind. Perhaps she’s someone who prefers not to have her kids see her so stressed. Why are you jumping to conclusions?