Mother and doughter

[Anonymous]

I am working with a family almost six years. I am working as nanny and my mom is working with me as like house manager ( she do loundry light cleaning and and cooking for the family) since she love cooking.
We are like family and the parents are very nice and respectful to us. I don’t want my mom work full time job to another family due her age. She has fun here with kids and love what she is doing ( not stress)
Now, here is issue that the family is going to move to another country.
Is it possible we could find a place where we could work together?
Or the families don’t accept that.
My mom is healthy. Being her at my job is help for me and fun for her.
I heard some Agences could help.
Thanks

[Anonymous]

It IS possible, however it may not necessarily be easy for you both to find a gig like this.

Does your Mother work full-time alongside you every single day?
So this family is paying both you AND your Mom two full-time paychecks weekly?

You might want to speak w/a few agencies in your local area & ask them if they have seen many clients looking for this set-up and if so, how often.

You may also want to ask your bosses if they could spread the word amongst their friends + co-workers that you and your Mother will be in need of a similar job like this pretty soon.

Keeping my fingers crossed that something comes up!
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

It is possible, OP, but not probable due to the cost of employing two people.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your replies. No , they just pay me . My mom live with me and I pay for her expenses.
I am happy she is not alone at home and have fun with kids.
She come with me it’s her choice. I never ask her. The family is very loving.
Thanks again

[Anonymous]

I'm sure some families will be interested in that set up, good luck !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for your replies. No , they just pay me . My mom live with me and I pay for her expenses.
I am happy she is not alone at home and have fun with kids.
She come with me it’s her choice. I never ask her. The family is very loving.
Thanks again

MB here. My first thought was, why not? My second thought was liability and labor laws. Can someone "volunteer" to work without the employer running afoul of labor laws? I guess so, if your mom is free to not show up at any time ...

[Anonymous]

Are the things that your mother is doing like laundry, cooking and cleaning, your responsibilities as the nanny and she comes to help? Or is she just coming along and doing these things in her own because you don’t need assistance with the children?

I understand it’s her choice and you like having her around but them not paying her something and allowing it to go on is sort of low down. It’s like you essentially want your mother to be a slave for a family so you can have her with you. If she is healthy are there not other things like clubs, groups, walks, library chores at home she could do? This sounds ideal and nice if she were being compensated but whether she doesn’t care or not she is slaving and either being taken advantage by you or this family. Cleaning, laundry for AND cooking!?

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine knowing an older lady was doing all of this for my family and I was not paying her or my employee wasn’t paying her her share. Is this what your mother does because you pay all of her expenses and she feels obligated?

[Anonymous]

Op here,
I love my mom so much. That’s the reason she is living with me.( she is not living alone like mostly senior citizen)
I started working with family . I see her every day alone by herself. I asked the family if she could join me. Her loneliness were changed . She started to have lot of fun with kids . NO ONE ASK HER FOR ANY TASK. SHE DO BY HER CHOICE. The kids call her grandma and the family give her gifts different occasions . They give her lot of respect and love
She don’t do loundry, cooking regular.Whenever she like .
I never ever think to use my mother. I could find a full time job for her as nanny. Whatever she make she will give me.
But , I don’t want my mom work full time. I just want she her happiness. She is happy to be with me.

Clubs , activities she is not interested. Since, she don’t speak English very well.
I tried my best but unfortunately she is not social as well.
I feel sorry for your thought I don’t think someone could make their mother to be slave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,
I love my mom so much. That’s the reason she is living with me.( she is not living alone like mostly senior citizen)
I started working with family . I see her every day alone by herself. I asked the family if she could join me. Her loneliness were changed . She started to have lot of fun with kids . NO ONE ASK HER FOR ANY TASK. SHE DO BY HER CHOICE. The kids call her grandma and the family give her gifts different occasions . They give her lot of respect and love
She don’t do loundry, cooking regular.Whenever she like .
I never ever think to use my mother. I could find a full time job for her as nanny. Whatever she make she will give me.
But , I don’t want my mom work full time. I just want she her happiness. She is happy to be with me.

Clubs , activities she is not interested. Since, she don’t speak English very well.
I tried my best but unfortunately she is not social as well.
I feel sorry for your thought I don’t think someone could make their mother to be slave.

Your mother is working full time. She just isn’t being paid. Just because she enjoys it doesn’t mean she isn’t working. Doing laundry, meals and cleaning for a family all day while you watch the kids is work. I don’t think you are using her and believe you enjoy the company. But you even said if she worked full time as a nanny you will take all of her pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here,
I love my mom so much. That’s the reason she is living with me.( she is not living alone like mostly senior citizen)
I started working with family . I see her every day alone by herself. I asked the family if she could join me. Her loneliness were changed . She started to have lot of fun with kids . NO ONE ASK HER FOR ANY TASK. SHE DO BY HER CHOICE. The kids call her grandma and the family give her gifts different occasions . They give her lot of respect and love
She don’t do loundry, cooking regular.Whenever she like .
I never ever think to use my mother. I could find a full time job for her as nanny. Whatever she make she will give me.
But , I don’t want my mom work full time. I just want she her happiness. She is happy to be with me.

Clubs , activities she is not interested. Since, she don’t speak English very well.
I tried my best but unfortunately she is not social as well.
I feel sorry for your thought I don’t think someone could make their mother to be slave.

I understand what you're saying. I'm the MB who posted above. It's just that this isn't your family that she's helping out; it's your employer. I could see (and have had it happen) that a nanny might bring her mom, or sister, or even husband one day to hang out with her for a little bit and meet the kids. It's the work component that is problematic.

I guess I would say that as long as your mom isn't doing anything more that YOU were contracted to do, it's between you and her (and you should talk to her about compensation). But if she is doing tasks above and beyond what is in your job description on a regular basis (as opposed to, say, a once-a-month treat for the kids), then she needs to be compensated by your employers.

I know this seems unfair since you're both happy. But the rules are there to protect everyone.

[Anonymous]

Op is just asking if she can bring her mom along to work, and the bonus is that her mom will do some extra tasks.

OP - many Americans whose families have lived here for generations have problems with this. They tend to be rules-based, and they have different boundaries with their parents.

What language do you guys speak?

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all replies. I didn’t say I will take all her pay I said she will give me happily. No she don’t work full time . She is off whenever she don’t want to go . But I can’t . Since, it’s my full time job. She don’t take care of kids, cook , loundry when she don’t want . But, I have to take care of kids . Since it’s my full time job.
She is with me at my full time job with out any responsibilities. This is not her job . She do tasks whenever she wants .
The family is very nice with her so she treat them like her family.