Mb is making me nuts

[Anonymous]

She is on maternity leave and constantly interrupts when I’m working with my charge. It like she thinks I just play all day with kids so if she wants to pop her head in and tell me something she saw on instagram or tell the kid to show me a dance he did the weekend she will. It’s crazy. Like i have a schedule and routine and when I am doing something like a puzzle or flash cards it’s important TO ME. Also in the morning she thinks she is “helping” by being around before school when really she is creating chaos because the kids don’t know who to listen to and keep stalling and manipulating her when we used to have smooth mornings. We have been late to school the past 2 days and it’s embarrassing. Db will tell her that’s it’s late and we usually are gone by certain times but she just keeps saying things like “ ok we’ll be real quick he’s hungry again” He is NOT hungry he is stalling

It’s making me dread coming in the mornings. When we do lunch she chooses that time to come in the kitchen and have her lunch so our usual 20 minute meal times are now extended to 45 + minutes wasting time because they just beg for her food (which i find rude of her) and think they should just sit around chatting on and on. It’s making me nuts! She tells me to eat my lunch then too but I don’t because they usually start asking for seconds etc. I’ve always eaten when they go down and focus on them while they eat and clean up the kitchen

I’m really thinking hard about asking her to be less visible during morning prep, and lunch. I understand they are her kids and she’d like to see them but the dynamic is so different now. I hate aimlessly sitting in the kitchen while kids play over food when they are done when we could have moved on to another activity and get on with our day and so I can eat my lunch while they go have quiet time and a moment of peace for at least 20 minutes. Then when I eat she thinks she should sit and talk to me the entire time. I’m there till 6 and deserve a break! Aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh

Help me please! I mean it’s nothing you all can do but mostly venting. Would you as a mb or nanny have this convo? I really want her to disappear somewhat when i come to work

[Anonymous]

Excuse typos on an iPhone and I isn’t working

[Anonymous]

Talk to her about it. Tell her that you need to discuss something with her and ask for a set time (this way she knows it is serious). The simply explain what has been going on and how it is not benefiting your charges, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her about it. Tell her that you need to discuss something with her and ask for a set time (this way she knows it is serious). The simply explain what has been going on and how it is not benefiting your charges, etc.

Thank you for this. I will definitely word it that way. I’m worried it will hurt her feelings or that I’m over stepping a boundary in her eyes but really she is crossing boundaries because this is my job and I feel I have the right for things to stay on routine and professional. We get along great and I don’t want that to change.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a complete narcissist

[Anonymous]

I’d talk to her about your concerns about getting to school in a timely fashion. The lunch thing is ridiculous but you’ll likely have to live with it. Maybe politely excuse yourself to go grab coffee or take a call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d talk to her about your concerns about getting to school in a timely fashion. The lunch thing is ridiculous but you’ll likely have to live with it. Maybe politely excuse yourself to go grab coffee or take a call

Yes If anything I’m discussing the school thing with her. I mean I guess she is just ignorant to how much it matters because db and I are the only ones that have ever done drop off.

But what is frustrating is that she acknowledges her kids get whiney and misbehave when she comes around but she continues to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a complete narcissist

Oh it’s lovely to always have a board certified psychiatrist on the forum! But actually I’m a career nanny that was hired to do her job and focus on my charges and what is best for them.

[Anonymous]

Op stop being weak and letting this mom sabotage your day. Either quit or tell her you need to be able to do your job without her interference.

Sounds like she is just lonely and wants to talk to an adult after being with her baby all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a complete narcissist

Oh it’s lovely to always have a board certified psychiatrist on the forum! But actually I’m a career nanny that was hired to do her job and focus on my charges and what is best for them.

NP. Then why don't you know how to handle this? You must not have much of a career.

[Anonymous]

you are experiencing what most nannies working for work from home or stay at home parents go through. I quit a job once while mother was on maternity leave because it was just too much for my health and peace of mind. Only advice I can provide is to quit and never look back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you are experiencing what most nannies working for work from home or stay at home parents go through. I quit a job once while mother was on maternity leave because it was just too much for my health and peace of mind. Only advice I can provide is to quit and never look back.

Thank you. I feel so guilty at the thought of having to part ways over this but it really is disturbing my peace of mind. I love my charges so much but I’ve been seeing sides of them I didn’t know existed since the parents have been around so much. I worked for a wahm a couple of families ago and she was great about staying in her office on another level and coordinating common area use with me. Having her lunch while we were out walking etc. It should be common consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a complete narcissist

Oh it’s lovely to always have a board certified psychiatrist on the forum! But actually I’m a career nanny that was hired to do her job and focus on my charges and what is best for them.

NP. Then why don't you know how to handle this? You must not have much of a career.

Oh, go away. And stop interrupting the nanny while she's trying to do her work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you are experiencing what most nannies working for work from home or stay at home parents go through. I quit a job once while mother was on maternity leave because it was just too much for my health and peace of mind. Only advice I can provide is to quit and never look back.

Thank you. I feel so guilty at the thought of having to part ways over this but it really is disturbing my peace of mind. I love my charges so much but I’ve been seeing sides of them I didn’t know existed since the parents have been around so much. I worked for a wahm a couple of families ago and she was great about staying in her office on another level and coordinating common area use with me. Having her lunch while we were out walking etc. It should be common consideration.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a complete narcissist

Oh it’s lovely to always have a board certified psychiatrist on the forum! But actually I’m a career nanny that was hired to do her job and focus on my charges and what is best for them.

NP. Then why don't you know how to handle this? You must not have much of a career.

Op here. Sorry but this comment makes very little sense. Enjoy your evening.