Have you ever had a really attractive nanny ?

[Anonymous]

A question for the moms. Would you ever hire a really attractive nanny ? Would you feel weird / insecure or just wouldn't matter ?

[Anonymous]

Nope! But I also know my strengths and weaknesses, and one of my weaknesses is jealousy. In order to maintain the health of my marriage and my sanity I filter all the super-models out of the queue first!

If you are not the jealous type, you may find an amazing nanny that just happens to also be gorgeous and be fine with that. My best friend’s nanny fit that exact description, but she isn’t naturally jealous, so it worked for her.

I don’t think it makes someone less mature for thinking this way. I have other strengths that some may not have (I don’t need to micro-manage the schedule, I don’t require everyone or the house to look spotless when I arrive home, etc). I think each NF needs to know their strengths and weaknesses in sharing their family with the nanny, and hire according to what they can handle within those boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Attractive to who?

[Anonymous]

We have a male nanny. He is not my type but good looking.

[Anonymous]

Omg. Who cares? Your spouse sees attractive women multiple times a day. As an attractive nanny, I don’t want to bang your husband so no need to ever get jealous. It’s called being a preofessional and maturity. Little girls act jealous. Real women who have a committed relationship aren’t northerner by or threatened by an attractive nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg. Who cares? Your spouse sees attractive women multiple times a day. As an attractive nanny, I don’t want to bang your husband so no need to ever get jealous. It’s called being a preofessional and maturity. Little girls act jealous. Real women who have a committed relationship aren’t northerner by or threatened by an attractive nanny.

Plus, beauty is subjective. What is beautiful to one person, may only be average to another. Don’t define a nanny by her looks, but rather by her experience and education. I have worked with attractive dads. Do I turn down a job because they’re attractive? No. Many nannies do not want to bang their boss and vice versa. Truth is if you’re husband is going to cheat, he will do it with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope! But I also know my strengths and weaknesses, and one of my weaknesses is jealousy. In order to maintain the health of my marriage and my sanity I filter all the super-models out of the queue first!

If you are not the jealous type, you may find an amazing nanny that just happens to also be gorgeous and be fine with that. My best friend’s nanny fit that exact description, but she isn’t naturally jealous, so it worked for her.

I don’t think it makes someone less mature for thinking this way. I have other strengths that some may not have (I don’t need to micro-manage the schedule, I don’t require everyone or the house to look spotless when I arrive home, etc). I think each NF needs to know their strengths and weaknesses in sharing their family with the nanny, and hire according to what they can handle within those boundaries.

You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. Who cares? Your spouse sees attractive women multiple times a day. As an attractive nanny, I don’t want to bang your husband so no need to ever get jealous. It’s called being a preofessional and maturity. Little girls act jealous. Real women who have a committed relationship aren’t northerner by or threatened by an attractive nanny.

Plus, beauty is subjective. What is beautiful to one person, may only be average to another. Don’t define a nanny by her looks, but rather by her experience and education. I have worked with attractive dads. Do I turn down a job because they’re attractive? No. Many nannies do not want to bang their boss and vice versa. Truth is if you’re husband is going to cheat, he will do it with anyone.

+1.

[Anonymous]

You sound insecure

[Anonymous]

It's funny, because we are currently looking for a new nanny for when we move, and for some reason I am more interested in the attractive candidates! (I'm a straight woman). Our current nanny is pretty but kind of heavy and not at all my husband's type. Some of our current candidates are his type (i.e. they're basically younger, sometimes prettier versions of myself). While I'm not one to test fate and I can get jealous, I guess I'm assuming that whoever we choose will be mature enough to not make a pass at my husband. Plus I don't think my husband is dumb enough to think about cheating, especially with the nanny. So we might very well end up with a very attractive nanny and I don't think it will be an issue. Plus, we're moving to the beach, so I figure our future neighbors can thank me.

[Anonymous]

My nanny's pretty good looking. But also not my husband's type, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual.

If we are talking super attractive, many times that is with lots of makeup and time spent on appearance. In that case I would hesitate if I get the sense it would distract from her duties (e.g. Wearing heels so cant run after kids, too much jewelry my toddler will try to pull on, etc)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny's pretty good looking. But also not my husband's type, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual.

If we are talking super attractive, many times that is with lots of makeup and time spent on appearance. In that case I would hesitate if I get the sense it would distract from her duties (e.g. Wearing heels so cant run after kids, too much jewelry my toddler will try to pull on, etc)

Nanny here. We don’t want to have sex with your husband. He’s may be attractive to you but most of us don’t want a guy 20 years older than us. I had a boss hit on me and I quit over it. Most nannies just want to do their job.

[Anonymous]

Yes but I trust my husband and he's not obvious about starting at women. He's also shy.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it is so much self-esteem that should matter in deciding on whether to hire an attractive Nanny or not.

It is just always best to exercise good judgment in general, and good judgment = Using good common sense.

Even if you 100% trust your husband & are secure in your marriage to him, why invite trouble on purpose??!

Everyone just KNOWS that men are visual creatures and a pretty girl thrown into the picture just will not bode well for the wife no matter what.

Why deliberately go searching for trouble??

Just my two cents here.

[Anonymous]

You know men.

Ugly only.