Another how much notice to give?

[Anonymous]

My charges mom is neglectful. She rarely has a new diaper on in the mornings and it's almost always the one I put on her the day before at 5 pm. Her mom asks me to babysit her daughter for lots of overnights on the weekends at my house. Last weekend she was with me for the entire weekend and mb didn't see her until Monday after work. Her mom isn't worried about potty training even though my charge is almost 3. My charge also has a HORRIBLE diet. She will throw a tantrum if we're out and I try to order her something healthy. She cries if I don't fill up her juice cup all day or if we leave the playground. It's constant crying during any transitions. She even cries when her moms comes home because she doesn't want me to leave. I feel really sad about giving notice but I need to move on to another job. I think I need to stop being a nanny all together. What should I say? I have only been at my job for 2 months so I feel bad to do this but I think it's best. I can't handle the stress anymore.

[Anonymous]

Please don't have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't have children.

[Anonymous]

ASAP in this case. She's taking advantage of you.

[Anonymous]

Quit on you way out the door tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quit on you way out the door tonight.[/quote

OP here: LOL. I can't do that. Definitely not brave enough to do that.

[Anonymous]

If she’s almost 3, and she’s wearing the same diaper from 5 pm til the next morning when you get there, that’s over 12 hours. No diaper would stand up to that, you would have a soaked/filthy child, sheets, anything she touches... While MB may be neglectful, I suspect that you are exaggerating. She would also be covered in diaper rash and might have a uti, yeast rash or other infection.

MB sounds like a typical single mom in terms of needing weekend coverage. I’ve known several who wanted to spend time with their kids, but they didn’t have time.

Kid cries at every transition, has a poor diet (why are you getting “healthy” fast food anyway?!), isn’t potty training and is onviously inured to the switch is caregiver. Sounds like MBis working her tail off to provide for her child, but you don’t care about the family dynamic. Please quit, so they can try to find someone else who will put in a better effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s almost 3, and she’s wearing the same diaper from 5 pm til the next morning when you get there, that’s over 12 hours. No diaper would stand up to that, you would have a soaked/filthy child, sheets, anything she touches... While MB may be neglectful, I suspect that you are exaggerating. She would also be covered in diaper rash and might have a uti, yeast rash or other infection.

MB sounds like a typical single mom in terms of needing weekend coverage. I’ve known several who wanted to spend time with their kids, but they didn’t have time.

Kid cries at every transition, has a poor diet (why are you getting “healthy” fast food anyway?!), isn’t potty training and is onviously inured to the switch is caregiver. Sounds like MBis working her tail off to provide for her child, but you don’t care about the family dynamic. Please quit, so they can try to find someone else who will put in a better effort.

I know because I marked on her diapers. It's typical for single moms to party all weekend and not see their children for 36 hours, really? I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she’s almost 3, and she’s wearing the same diaper from 5 pm til the next morning when you get there, that’s over 12 hours. No diaper would stand up to that, you would have a soaked/filthy child, sheets, anything she touches... While MB may be neglectful, I suspect that you are exaggerating. She would also be covered in diaper rash and might have a uti, yeast rash or other infection.

MB sounds like a typical single mom in terms of needing weekend coverage. I’ve known several who wanted to spend time with their kids, but they didn’t have time.

Kid cries at every transition, has a poor diet (why are you getting “healthy” fast food anyway?!), isn’t potty training and is onviously inured to the switch is caregiver. Sounds like MBis working her tail off to provide for her child, but you don’t care about the family dynamic. Please quit, so they can try to find someone else who will put in a better effort.

I know because I marked on her diapers. It's typical for single moms to party all weekend and not see their children for 36 hours, really? I don't think so.

Give 1 week notice and the PP making ridiculous justifications for the mother can take over. Better to have someone who will see the family through rose colored glasses.

[Anonymous]

2 weeks is enough.

[Anonymous]

You say: "Jane, I've decided that this job isn't the right fit for me, and I am considering a career change. I'm giving you my two weeks notice. I wish you and little Suzy all the best."

And you're gracious and professional for as long as you're there.

That's it.