When to leave

[Anonymous]

I work for two families and I just feel like every other week its something new. My other family, everything is a breeze with them and I really appreciate their communication skills- which is HIGHLY important to me. My other family, they're just all over the place. They don't give timely notices and are quit snappy when you bring something to their attention. I really love the kids but the parents are starting to get on my last nerve and I feel is about to make me step out of character.

Also, nannies, how do you deal/feel when the families have guest in the home when they're (the parents) aren't present? Mostly non-related.

[Anonymous]

If it’s not a good match then you need to leave. That can be hard if you are using two families to celebrate a full time job. Start looking now. Also, if you find a new family that wants full time, you’ll need to take it and leave both families. We all do this for the love of children and leaving can be difficult, but you need to do what is best for you. You also need to do a thorough job of only picking families that you jive well with.

As for guests... personally I do well with nearly anyone and any environment, so guests never make me feel uncomfortable or out of place. I try to encourage as much interaction between the guests (especially family members) and the children as possible. Do you have a specific question?

[Anonymous]

I would talk to the family that you do get along better with & let them know your feelings.
Tell them you do not want to leave them high + dry, but it is just too difficult to continue on w/the other family.

Perhaps they can give you a few ideas for working this out.
Maybe they know of another family that they can replace w/their current one.....??

After talking w/the family you can then proceed to let the other family know that you feel you are not a suitable match for each other’s needs.

It is entirely up to you on whether you would like to go into detail w/them.
If you feel uncomfortable doing so, remember that you do not have to.

Give proper notice and move on.
Caring for multiple children can be a daily challenge.
Why deal w/parents who cause add’l stress as well??!

Hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

Find another pt job.

[Anonymous]

When guests visit I continue to do my job and stay on routine as much as possible for the kids. If there is a special activity that the guests would like to do with my charges I ask for notice so that it can be coordinated and I won’t be packed up and heading out with kids when so and so pops up asking one of the kids if they want to go with them instead. I find that rude. I also don’t push my charges on guests because some don’t care to spend much time with them. MB’s Mother will want to do 15 minutes here then give them back immediately.

I don’t think it’s fair to me to make my job more challenging and chaotic because you are in town and want to waffle back and forth with the kids on whims. Otherwise I should be able to go home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When guests visit I continue to do my job and stay on routine as much as possible for the kids. If there is a special activity that the guests would like to do with my charges I ask for notice so that it can be coordinated and I won’t be packed up and heading out with kids when so and so pops up asking one of the kids if they want to go with them instead. I find that rude. I also don’t push my charges on guests because some don’t care to spend much time with them. MB’s Mother will want to do 15 minutes here then give them back immediately.

I don’t think it’s fair to me to make my job more challenging and chaotic because you are in town and want to waffle back and forth with the kids on whims. Otherwise I should be able to go home.

She doesn't tell me when they have guest. I come to work and then she heads out and doesn't even say anything about her quest like "oh, Jane is heading out soon" or "Jane is staying for the week." Her friends are rude. They don't speak and one of her friends stared at me to the point I had to turn the other way (back facing her) or it was going to get ugly. I rarely feel uncomfortable but around her guest I do. My charge doesn't really pay them attention she goes about her business. I just think its common curtsy to inform someone that they're going to be left in a house with someone whether a few minutes or a few hours (especially when your home is small and we can't be out the way). She doesn't introduce me or introduce her friends to me. I've had to say "hello, I'm Larla!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would talk to the family that you do get along better with & let them know your feelings.
Tell them you do not want to leave them high + dry, but it is just too difficult to continue on w/the other family.

Perhaps they can give you a few ideas for working this out.
Maybe they know of another family that they can replace w/their current one.....??

After talking w/the family you can then proceed to let the other family know that you feel you are not a suitable match for each other’s needs.

It is entirely up to you on whether you would like to go into detail w/them.
If you feel uncomfortable doing so, remember that you do not have to.

Give proper notice and move on.
Caring for multiple children can be a daily challenge.
Why deal w/parents who cause add’l stress as well??!

Hope this helps!

I know they won't split up so i'll just have to leave. Thank you so much for your advice!