How to tell MB I’m quitting.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my NF for 2 years, and I’ve became family to them. But I think my time with them has run its course. My apartment lease is up in a few months, and I plan on moving out of town to start fresh, but idk how to tell MB, she is very sensitive and clingy, and always tells me how hard it would be to replace me, because I’m a very hard worker when it comes to helping with her children, and she doesn’t want to lose me. But I’ve become so burnt out from this job and this town and want to start over. But I don’t know how to do so, this is my first job so I’m not sure as to how to break the news to her. Suggestions?

[Anonymous]

Send a quick text. There's probably a gif that will do the trick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my NF for 2 years, and I’ve became family to them. But I think my time with them has run its course. My apartment lease is up in a few months, and I plan on moving out of town to start fresh, but idk how to tell MB, she is very sensitive and clingy, and always tells me how hard it would be to replace me, because I’m a very hard worker when it comes to helping with her children, and she doesn’t want to lose me. But I’ve become so burnt out from this job and this town and want to start over. But I don’t know how to do so, this is my first job so I’m not sure as to how to break the news to her. Suggestions?

Sit her down and tell her that.

[Anonymous]

I am leaving the area and will be quitting.

[Anonymous]

Let her know that your lease is expiring in a few months & that you will be moving.

That’s the perfect reason or excuse.

But let her know really soon as she will need plenty of time to find a Nanny as awesome as you are!


Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Give her two weeks notice because she will fire you immediately.

[Anonymous]

I would not give too much notice. 1 month is good

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do more than a months notice. You can start priming the pump by mentioning little things like your lease is up, or your friend/boyfriend/sister/whomever just moved to XYZ and it looks great (even if it's not true.) You can even say you're going back to school in XYZ city. But really, moving is the best excuse. If she presses you can just say they're raising the rent beyond what you can comfortably afford and so you've decided to move someplace new and explore a new place.

[Anonymous]

Are you thinking that you would have your last day of work a week or two before moving? Are you sure that nothing the family can do would make you change your mind? So if they gave you a raise you wouldn't stay, right? Because you should be clear on that going in.

Let's assume nothing they'll throw at you to sweeten the pot would make you stay, yes?

Here's a script:

Hi Jane, this is a really difficult decision, but I've decided that at the end of April I'm going to move out of town, so I'm giving you my two weeks notice today." Then let her freak out and say whatever. Whatever she says just keep saying "I've made the decision to move; I'll miss you all, too." And other variations of that. If you want to, let her beg you for a month's notice and let her "talk you into" giving three weeks notice. Be prepared to be let go the day you give notice though.

[Anonymous]

I’d give her a months notice if you can afford to (ie if she fires you or replaces you sooner can you still pay your bills?)

Don’t say anything until you’ve signed your new lease and made a plan. Good luck in your new place

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do more than a months notice. You can start priming the pump by mentioning little things like your lease is up, or your friend/boyfriend/sister/whomever just moved to XYZ and it looks great (even if it's not true.) You can even say you're going back to school in XYZ city. But really, moving is the best excuse. If she presses you can just say they're raising the rent beyond what you can comfortably afford and so you've decided to move someplace new and explore a new place.

Stop doing this. Coming up with excuses, especially bogus ones, just invites people to try to help you solve the problem, and leads to hurt feelings when they realize you were just using the problem as an excuse.

Just say you've decided to move. And if you don't want to move, just say that you've loved working for them, but you need to move on. Period. You might lose the reference if she's angry in that case, though.

[Anonymous]

the less said the better.

"My lease is up in April and I'm moving out of town. Therefore I am resigning and my last day will be x. I've enjoyed my time with your family. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Do not send a text. Unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do more than a months notice. You can start priming the pump by mentioning little things like your lease is up, or your friend/boyfriend/sister/whomever just moved to XYZ and it looks great (even if it's not true.) You can even say you're going back to school in XYZ city. But really, moving is the best excuse. If she presses you can just say they're raising the rent beyond what you can comfortably afford and so you've decided to move someplace new and explore a new place.

I agree with giving them a month but not much more if you need the job. But don’t “prime” it. That makes it obvious that you knew in advance and didn’t tell them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not send a text. Unprofessional.

Hopefully that is obvious