How to discipline a child ?

[Anonymous]

Mostly parents wants to know during interview. What’s your thought how to discipline children? Thanks

[Anonymous]

You really need to get to know the individual child.
How old is the child?
How are the parents disciplining their child?

[Anonymous]

Two years old. I don’t how the parents do.

[Anonymous]

I use positive discipline mostly but I have always discussed discipline with the parents of my charges. Loving, firm and, most importantly, consistent rules and expectations.

[Anonymous]

I tend to prefer consistent but gentle discipline. When very young, mostly redirection. A child is learning and doesn’t understand right from wrong. Getting down to their level and explaining the “why” behind the no is important. Positive reinforcement is important. If the child is old enough and being defiant, I leave it up to the parents to decide if we do a time out or take away a treat for the day. Sometimes natural consequences are used ( i.e. you hit your head on the wall and you get hurt). Being consistent is important. It also depends on personality and the parents parental philosophy.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are asking us to give you the answer to recite in your next interview, but that’s shady on your part and won’t even help you because they may have follow-up questions. Are you an experienced nanny? What do you do when a child acts up? Do you ignore, do time-outs, try to distract them? If you have worked as a nanny with kids older than 18 months then you already have a discipline style.

[Anonymous]

I used to workin day care. It was my first job with children. The owner of day care didn’t care about these things. I am not saying every day care is same but the one I used to work didn’t care about children discipline.
Now, when I am trying to get a job as Nanny most parents asked me same question.
Thanks for your reply

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to workin day care. It was my first job with children. The owner of day care didn’t care about these things. I am not saying every day care is same but the one I used to work didn’t care about children discipline.
Now, when I am trying to get a job as Nanny most parents asked me same question.
Thanks for your reply

It sounds as if English is not your first language. Are you not sure what the word “discipline” means? Because if you have worked with children at all, then I guarantee you you have done some form of discipline. When you say that your boss at the daycare center did not care about discipline, that simply cannot be true. If you were not disciplining the children at all, that would mean that if they bite, hit, throw things, pee on the floor, Color on the walls, or other bad behavior that you completely ignored all of it and did not care. I am guessing that most day cares would not allow that.

[Anonymous]

Yes you are right , I think I didn’t understand meaning of discipline.

[Anonymous]

I give the parents my list of what I am already comfortable doing, but I also make sure that they understand that I'm flexible. Different things work for different children, sometimes within the same family. Sometimes it's best to use whatever method the parents use, sometimes the nanny has to do something else. I'm always reading about different things related to children. Personalities, discipline, those are just two.

For what it's worth, most parents can't name their methods. If you ask them to give you an example of a scenario, you can give them a couple different ways you could approach it and then see which fits their style the best.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your reply. Can you please share your list please.
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you are right , I think I didn’t understand meaning of discipline.

When parents ask this question, what they are asking is how do you handle it if a kid is being “bad?“ obviously your answer will be different for different children, depending on the age and the behavior. But you can think of some of the bad things that a kid might do at different ages.

So if you are interviewing for a family with a one-year-old, you can give examples of what you would do if the child throws food, climbs on the furniture, or kicks their feet during a diaper change.

For a two-year-old, give examples of what you would do if they don’t want to share their toys, or they color on the wall, or they threw a big tantrum.

And so on and so on. I always try to make it match the age of the child or children I am interviewing to care for. Some parents have a certain book or something that they try to follow, but most of the time just giving examples of what you do when the kids are being naughty will help The parents to know what kind of nanny you are and whether you handle things in a way that they like.

[Anonymous]

I give the parents examples:

Johnny knocked down all the books off his bookshelf.
Johnny, we do not treat the books this way. Please pick up the books.
Johnny says “no”
Repeat (pick up the books)
Johnny says “no” again (maybe throws something)
Johnny, this is not ok. Let’s go sit down (I don’t put children in the corner but they are away from toys or anything entertaining) and I would explain that until he picks up the books, he may not play with anything. Have them sit for 1-2 minutes and then ask if the’re ready to pickup or play nicely. If the behavior continues, he or she may not play with that activity for the rest of the day (maybe tomorrow if you behave the rest of the day).

Toddlers is more of redirecting: okay, you’re not treating this right let’s pick another activity or a little break.

If we’re out in public, it’s simple. If you can’t behave, we go! For me I’m okay with you screaming all the way home. However, I give them warnings first- 2 maybe 3 (depending on how he/she is acting). Eventually they will learn that misbehaving does nothing but hurt you- you missed out on the fun. Be firm and stick to it!

Oh! And I’m telling your mom and dad! LOL (if they’re older) but somethings I don’t tell the parents, unless, it’s an ongoing thing or the parents have expressed their concerns about their child misbehaving.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all helpful information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all helpful information.

Have you done any research into child development OP? Do that first if you haven't, that way you know what might be appropriate at each stage.

I'm 16.51. I'm not going to give you a list because I don't know you, your personality or you anilities. You need to do the research for yourself and figure out what works with your personality.