Any grandparents do something for grandchild's nanny?
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Anonymous
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Our grandchild has a fantastic, loving and devoted nanny. She gives so much to my grandchild and teaches her so much. While I know my daughter and son in-law love Nanny and treat her well, I was wondering if I should do something. Even if it is just a holiday card?
Is that totally inappropriate? I would never think to do it for my daughter and son-in-laws other employees (they own a small company) but my grandchild's nanny is such a personal position. Tell this old lady the truth - I can take it! 
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Anonymous
Skip it. I love my MIL and mom and I would find this meddlesome. |
Anonymous
| Nope, don't do it. |
Anonymous
| I say go with it, it’s always nice to show appreciation. The grandparents of the kids I care for, give me a gift. |
Anonymous
| Nice card is fine, but skip the gift. And give it to the parents to pass on rather than giving it the nanny directly. That gives them a chance to object if they feel it would be an uncomfortable dynamic for any reason. |
Anonymous
| As a nanny, I would find this very thoughtful and heartwarming. I have done photo books for grandparents in the past and not even gotten a thank you. If you feel compelled to give a gift or a card, she will LOVE it. If you don't feel compelled, she will not think anything of it. I say do it. |
Anonymous
| As a nanny, I would really appreciate a card at the holidays from the grandmother. It would mean a great deal to me to be recognized like that. |
Anonymous
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I have no clue why any mother would think a holiday card from her mother or MIL would be "meddlesome "!! It would be a nice and appreciated gesture.
Some of you parents are weird. |
Anonymous
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My charge’s Grandmother occasionally will give me a gift.
She tells me that she appreciates all that I do for her Grandchild which makes me feel SO appreciated! 
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Anonymous
| My mom has given nanny small gifts. Everyone thinks that's nice. |
Anonymous
If the grandma involved is meddlesome in general, then communicating sirectly with the childcare provider becomes an extension of that. |
Anonymous
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That's very sweet from you
Listen to your heart and give her a card and a gift if you want to. It'll be very much appreciated. Nanny_ |
Anonymous
If Grandma is meddlesome, the least of your worries is a card to your child's nanny. Your nanny is not your property and your mother/MIL can correspond with any other adult she chooses. Grandma is simply showing appreciation for what this woman does for her grandchild and has nothing to do with you. I think it is a lovely idea, OP. |
Anonymous
| I think it is a lovely gesture, OP. Do it. |
Anonymous
| Yes! Please write the nanny a holiday card expressing your gratitude and appreciation. I have one former charge's grandmother who still has me on her holiday card list and always writes a sweet note (I still see her grandsons). The bitter pill that is my current charge's grandmother doesn't even say hello to me when she sees me much less would ever think to send me a card. |