What questions should I ask a SAHM nanny who will host at her house?

[Anonymous]

I am considering hiring a SAHM who will host at her house. She has a toddler my daughter's age. She will not be taking care of any other children so I consider it more as a nanny share than in home daycare. She used to teach preschool at a Montessori school. I have her references from preschool and church nursery. Should she provide meals? Please give any tips if this set up has worked for you in the past. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you don't pay her too much. Her kid will have priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

It's possible to have a master's in Montessori education. All Montessori teacher's must have a bachelor's degree and they go on to study Montessori education. You sound like a know it all.

[Anonymous]

She's a babysitter, not a nanny share. You ask to see the house and is it toddler proof - is the furniture strapped to the walls, anything dangerous like knives and cleaning products locked up. Where will your child nap? Does she have an extra car seat or do you provide? How much time will she spend running errands and doing her thing or do you not care? How much would she like an hour? Who provides meals? Who provides the PNP and other needs?

[Anonymous]

I would ask when/if she plans to put her child in preschool

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

You don't sound very bright pp. It's definitely possible to have a master's degree in Montessori education. George Mason University has a program.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's a babysitter, not a nanny share. You ask to see the house and is it toddler proof - is the furniture strapped to the walls, anything dangerous like knives and cleaning products locked up. Where will your child nap? Does she have an extra car seat or do you provide? How much time will she spend running errands and doing her thing or do you not care? How much would she like an hour? Who provides meals? Who provides the PNP and other needs? [/quote

Op here: I met her and got a really good feeling. The pay she is expecting is closer to half of a nanny share. I consider her a nanny/ child care provider. Should things work out she would be taking care of my child 40-50 hours per week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She's a babysitter, not a nanny share. You ask to see the house and is it toddler proof - is the furniture strapped to the walls, anything dangerous like knives and cleaning products locked up. Where will your child nap? Does she have an extra car seat or do you provide? How much time will she spend running errands and doing her thing or do you not care? How much would she like an hour? Who provides meals? Who provides the PNP and other needs? [/quote

Op here: I met her and got a really good feeling. The pay she is expecting is closer to half of a nanny share. I consider her a nanny/ child care provider. Should things work out she would be taking care of my child 40-50 hours per week.

She is not a nanny if she is doing it in her home. I would be concerned about someone you just met once/no background check. You will need to make it worth her while - I would think at least $10-12 an hour, if not more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

It's possible to have a master's in Montessori education. All Montessori teacher's must have a bachelor's degree and they go on to study Montessori education. You sound like a know it all.

Not PP but where do you get an accredited master's degree in Montessori education?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

You don't sound very bright pp. It's definitely possible to have a master's degree in Montessori education. George Mason University has a program.

Is that where this SAHM got her masters degree?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the other PP - she will always put her child first. If that is okay with you, then do it.

Remember you have no way to see what - if anything - she is doing with your child since there will be no nanny cams. She could be on her phone the entire time while your kid and her kid cry in a play corral.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically the same questions you would ask any childcare provider: About CPR certification and house safety/childproofing (firearms) Ask what your DD's average day would look like.


Are you sure you want to do this, OP? The mother will always favor her own child. Your child will spend her day being second best.

I'd rather not hire a young nanny who is obsessed with her iPhone. There's a reason we're going this route now. I think both kids will benefit from socializing and I love that she has a masters in Montessori education. My daughter is super easy to take care of. I'm not sure how she would favor one over the other. They're not babies.

A SAHM and a young nanny obsessed with her iphone are not your only two choices for childcare, OP. And she is not telling you the truth if she said she has a "masters in Montessori education". Our nanny is older with an actual Masters in Early Childhood Development and never on her phone. And my DD is her one and only.

Here is the only truth - a mother will put her child first. If you are okay with you child coming in second, then go for it.

It's possible to have a master's in Montessori education. All Montessori teacher's must have a bachelor's degree and they go on to study Montessori education. You sound like a know it all.

Not PP but where do you get an accredited master's degree in Montessori education?

OP here: She's Canadian. Her degree is from Canada. Do I really need a nanny who has a Master’s? No, not really. Being a nanny is not what most people envisioned for themselves after slogging through 6 years of school.