Not getting NKs any gifts for Holidays

[Anonymous]

Traditionally, I’ve always given last nanny kids gifts for Christmas, Hannakah and birthdays

I’ve been with current NF for 7 months and did a book for Birthdays and they were terribly ungrateful. Over the past 7 months I realized both kids (7 and 9) are spoiled, entitled and very ungrateful. They have rooms and playrooms overflowing with toys but demand more... and show little to no appreciation.


I do not want to give them anything, and don’t think they really deserve a gift from me. I also don’t want to stir up issues by not getting my Nks a gift. Any other nannies not do gifts? Is it required?

[Anonymous]

I would get them donation card to UNICEF or a children's charity.

But you are getting really bent out of shape over and issue you should have been able to solve by now - namely their gratitude to you and how they treat you. Depending on how many hours you are with them, you could be a great influence on them rather than basically calling them brats and sulking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Traditionally, I’ve always given last nanny kids gifts for Christmas, Hannakah and birthdays

I’ve been with current NF for 7 months and did a book for Birthdays and they were terribly ungrateful. Over the past 7 months I realized both kids (7 and 9) are spoiled, entitled and very ungrateful. They have rooms and playrooms overflowing with toys but demand more... and show little to no appreciation.


I do not want to give them anything, and don’t think they really deserve a gift from me. I also don’t want to stir up issues by not getting my Nks a gift. Any other nannies not do gifts? Is it required?

First, they are CHARGES not "nanny kids".

Second, no - I have always given gifts to my charges. It is customary.

Third, with such little regard or affection for your charges - you should leave the position.

[Anonymous]

When I had charges like that, I kept it cheap. The parents did too, only a $50 bonus if you could even call it that. But I still loved mine and they expected the gifts so I would get something under $9 for each of them. You could even get stuff at the dollar store. It will make you feel less guilty. But that's just me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Traditionally, I’ve always given last nanny kids gifts for Christmas, Hannakah and birthdays

I’ve been with current NF for 7 months and did a book for Birthdays and they were terribly ungrateful. Over the past 7 months I realized both kids (7 and 9) are spoiled, entitled and very ungrateful. They have rooms and playrooms overflowing with toys but demand more... and show little to no appreciation.


I do not want to give them anything, and don’t think they really deserve a gift from me. I also don’t want to stir up issues by not getting my Nks a gift. Any other nannies not do gifts? Is it required?

First, they are CHARGES not "nanny kids".

Second, no - I have always given gifts to my charges. It is customary.

Third, with such little regard or affection for your charges - you should leave the position.

Oh please, nanny kids is fine. Get that stick out of your ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Traditionally, I’ve always given last nanny kids gifts for Christmas, Hannakah and birthdays

I’ve been with current NF for 7 months and did a book for Birthdays and they were terribly ungrateful. Over the past 7 months I realized both kids (7 and 9) are spoiled, entitled and very ungrateful. They have rooms and playrooms overflowing with toys but demand more... and show little to no appreciation.


I do not want to give them anything, and don’t think they really deserve a gift from me. I also don’t want to stir up issues by not getting my Nks a gift. Any other nannies not do gifts? Is it required?

First, they are CHARGES not "nanny kids".

Second, no - I have always given gifts to my charges. It is customary.

Third, with such little regard or affection for your charges - you should leave the position.

Oh please, nanny kids is fine. Get that stick out of your ass.

Grow up, OP. No wonder you "nanny kids" hate you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Traditionally, I’ve always given last nanny kids gifts for Christmas, Hannakah and birthdays

I’ve been with current NF for 7 months and did a book for Birthdays and they were terribly ungrateful. Over the past 7 months I realized both kids (7 and 9) are spoiled, entitled and very ungrateful. They have rooms and playrooms overflowing with toys but demand more... and show little to no appreciation.


I do not want to give them anything, and don’t think they really deserve a gift from me. I also don’t want to stir up issues by not getting my Nks a gift. Any other nannies not do gifts? Is it required?

First, they are CHARGES not "nanny kids".

Second, no - I have always given gifts to my charges. It is customary.

Third, with such little regard or affection for your charges - you should leave the position.

Oh please, nanny kids is fine. Get that stick out of your ass.

Wow, you are so professional! (snark)

[Anonymous]

No one is entitled to gifts.

[Anonymous]

Better yet, OP, find another job over the holidays. You clearly have contempt for your charges. Not a good situation for anyone. Whether or not you get them a gift is the least of your worries.

[Anonymous]

I’d get them a personalized item around $10 and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

I would never skip a charge's birthday, even if they're spoiled.
I'm sure they're not even expecting anything for Xmas from you since you probably don't spend that holiday with them (they do with their family), so maybe taking them out on a special outing could be fun?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is entitled to gifts.

This

[Anonymous]

Zero. This is probably what you will also receive.

[Anonymous]

You clearly have contempt for your charges. Yes, you should get them gifts but, more importantly, you need to find another job. It is not fair to the children to have a nanny who has so little regard for them and who is not capable of altering their attitudes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never skip a charge's birthday, even if they're spoiled.
I'm sure they're not even expecting anything for Xmas from you since you probably don't spend that holiday with them (they do with their family), so maybe taking them out on a special outing could be fun?

I meant birthday or xmas ...