Is it unreasonable...

[Anonymous]

To expect nanny to keep DC away from my teenage stepsons who regularly visit and hang out? DC told me that he spent time chatting to stepsons whilst nanny just sat downstairs...

[Anonymous]

It is unreasonable unless you tell her to do so. It's a weird thing to ask -- they're siblings, and most people want their kids to spend time together. So if you want them kept apart, you must have a good reason, but you can't expect her to know that.

[Anonymous]

it is a little bit odd that you would want to keep them separate. If you believe they are a danger to your child then that's something you have to handle with your husband. Not sure exactly how you want to keep siblings away in there in the same household a hundred percent of the time .

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to keep the siblings apart? Very odd.

[Anonymous]

If one person is upstairs, unless they are watching downstairs they don't know what the person downstairs was doing. Maybe the nanny was downstairs folding laundry, drying and putting away dishes, meal-planning, researching activities for your child, etc.

And as long as the teens weren't annoyed by the child, why should they be kept apart?

[Anonymous]

Now that I reread the OP ...

Is it that you, OP, want your son kept away from the teens?

Or, do the teens want your son kept away from them?

If it's the latter, I do think it's reasonable for teens to expect to be able to do teen things without a tot around (inappropriate video games, maybe?), but I also think that as siblings, they should be expected to tolerate your son coming in for a few minutes a few times a day. He's a sibling and he lives there with them; it's a family thing, not a "make an appointment" or "only at shared meals and forced family outings" thing.

Do your teen stepsons resent their new brother?

[Anonymous]

Unless you specified she was to keep your child away from them, it’s completely unreasonable for you to expect her to guess that’s what you want. Is there some reason your kid can’t talk to them for a bit?

[Anonymous]

Were you wanting the nanny to facilitate the interaction? Was it that the child could have been left unsupervised if the stepsons left, or you thought she was using them to avoid paying attention to them? I think you can set some boundaries as to the ways in which you want the Nanny to support the stepsons in interacting with their brother (how old is he?), but to keep them apart seems a little bit odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To expect nanny to keep DC away from my teenage stepsons who regularly visit and hang out? DC told me that he spent time chatting to stepsons whilst nanny just sat downstairs...

Yes.

Also using "whilst" is the US is affected.

[Anonymous]

It depends on numerous factors. Unless you clearly state your reasons to the nanny, yes, it's a little unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

How old is your son and why can't he talk to his brothers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is your son and why can't he talk to his brothers?

+1

[Anonymous]

Troll.

[Anonymous]

It's not unreasonable.

Depending on your reasons for wanting it (kids really like each other but you just want to keep them apart, for example) you could be crazy.
However, the request itself is reasonable because there are many reasons why you would want that, some which are not crazy.

You can make this simple request.