Charge is left in unsafe environment

[Anonymous]

My employers leave their twenty-one-month-old child with her grandmother about once a week for a few hours. The grandmother has demanded this alone time with my charge and my employers have given in to her demands. However I have been with the grandmother and the child and the grandmother is incapable of taking care of her. The grandmother has "memory issues" and I think it is getting worse. The bottom line is that I do not think my charge is safe in the grandmother's care. There is a housekeeper around for most of the visit but I still don't think it is enough.

I have told my employers in no uncertain terms that the grandmother is not capable of caring for my charge alone. I have offered to take me charge free of charge for those hours when I am available (but I am not always available). And have offered to drive my charge over to the grandmother's house and stay with them (the grandmother nixed that as my charge doesn't pay enough attention to the grandmother if I am there). My employers want to keep the peace in their family - and I understand that - but I am honestly worried about my charge's life.

What else can I do?

[Anonymous]

You can't do anything, you can voice your concerns and then you have to drop it.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. You, as a nanny, cannot care more about the health and welfare of the child more than the parents do.

Some parents are idiots.

- an MB

[Anonymous]

It's not just elder people. Some stupid parents let thier kids watch many hours of tv , and they are just 2 years old. No wonder he's spoiled as fuck.

[Anonymous]

If you are really worried call Child Protective Services. They will talk with the parents. Sometimes people only respond to the athorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are really worried call Child Protective Services. They will talk with the parents. Sometimes people only respond to the athorities.

And prepare to be fired. Nothing more you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not just elder people. Some stupid parents let thier kids watch many hours of tv , and they are just 2 years old. No wonder he's spoiled as fuck.

This has nothing to do with the topic at hand. You need to continue to talk to your employers and let them know that the parent is having memory issues and you are concerned about their safety as well. Most people are in denial that their parents are getting older and do not want to deal with it until it become a huge problem. Nothing you can do as its their child and their choice.

[Anonymous]

Keep talking to the parents and bringing up new grandma-confused examples as they happen. My mother had Alzheimer's Disease and I am well aware of the early signs when I see them in other people - I always gently mention it to the adult children. In your case, a toddler's life is in peril - so talk, talk, talk - to your charge's parents. And offer to help whenever you can.

[Anonymous]

If you really are concerned about the child's safety quit and give your reasons.

Tell them that you don't want to be held responsible for any harm done to the child while in the grandparents care.

They will probably try and hire you back after a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you really are concerned about the child's safety quit and give your reasons.

Tell them that you don't want to be held responsible for any harm done to the child while in the grandparents care.

They will probably try and hire you back after a week.

Your advice makes no sense whatsoever! Why would the nanny quit over something the parents so (let the child go to grandmother's house) when the nanny isn't there? The nanny is not - and would never be - held responsible for any harm done to the child while in the grandparent's care.

This advice to nannies to quit at the drop of the hat is ridiculous and so overdone on this forum. "Quit!" is part of every single thread on every single topic. Boring.