Looks matter

[Anonymous]

Ok so mom interviewed and basically hired me. We had a really great meeting but I noticed that she kept looking at my body features. Long story short I was never hired and I believe it was because of my looks. I'm really curvy but I do my best to camouflage my body like covering up because I know how insecure women are but if that was the case why pretend like you're going to hire me. It just sucks because I shouldn't be discriminated against based on my look as long as its professional at this point I don't know if I want to continue this field of work I although I love children.

[Anonymous]

You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

+1000x

I don't get how you were hired, then not hired.

And why do you assume you were not hired because you have curves??

It could have nothing to do w/your body and EVERYthing to do w/how hot you think you are.

Please try to stop thinking all women are so insecure around you.
It actually is the total opposite.

[Anonymous]

Most women that describe themselves as "curvy" are actually just straight up fat. It's unlikely she was insecure around you, she probably just wasn't confident that you are physically fit and healthy enough to keep up with her child on the playground.

[Anonymous]

Curvy nanny here. I used to be fat and I believe I didn't get some jobs because of that. And that's fine. We have to be honest here : you have to be fit to keep up with children.
Curvy can be fit, fat can't and that's a fact.

OP, don't be upset about it and move on. This wasn't meant to be.

[Anonymous]

Pp is right, it wasn't meant to be. As a nanny you have to be carefull to never appear attractive enough to cause jealousy in insecure moms, and never appear out of shape enough that you can't keep up with their kids. But it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

If you read my post it clearly says that she gave me a nasty look up and down when I walked in. "She basically hired me" meaning she gave m a start date as well as offering to meet with another family for a nanny share. Face it jealousy does exist in the work place. You sound very insecure on this post now be gone if you have nothing nice to say. It's always easier for you to judge when you're on the outside looking in you should be ashamed of yourself. Instead of trying to figure out what's wrong with my post you should offer positive advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp is right, it wasn't meant to be. As a nanny you have to be carefull to never appear attractive enough to cause jealousy in insecure moms, and never appear out of shape enough that you can't keep up with their kids. But it is what it is.

Thank you it is what it is maybe I wasn't meant to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

If you read my post it clearly says that she gave me a nasty look up and down when I walked in. "She basically hired me" meaning she gave m a start date as well as offering to meet with another family for a nanny share. Face it jealousy does exist in the work place. You sound very insecure on this post now be gone if you have nothing nice to say. It's always easier for you to judge when you're on the outside looking in you should be ashamed of yourself. Instead of trying to figure out what's wrong with my post you should offer positive advice.

Now I know you're crazy. Your original post does NOT say she gave you a nasty look at all. And I DID give you positive advice. Which you should take. But you won't. Because you've convinced yourself that I am insecure and jealous of you. There's nothing about my post that indicates I'm insecure or jealous. Nothing I say will change your assumption so I won't waste any more time on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

If you read my post it clearly says that she gave me a nasty look up and down when I walked in. "She basically hired me" meaning she gave m a start date as well as offering to meet with another family for a nanny share. Face it jealousy does exist in the work place. You sound very insecure on this post now be gone if you have nothing nice to say. It's always easier for you to judge when you're on the outside looking in you should be ashamed of yourself. Instead of trying to figure out what's wrong with my post you should offer positive advice.

Huh? No it doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound crazy on multiple levels. The MB "basically hired" you? What does that mean? She either did or didn't. Why are you convinced women are insecure? I am a woman. I'm not insecure. You really think someone was checking out your tits and ass and hips during an interview? Was this woman a lesbian? I'm straight and within a second and a half I've seen another woman's body enough to know what it looks like. No need to keep looking at body features.

Maybe focus less on your looks and more on connecting with people during future interviews.

If you read my post it clearly says that she gave me a nasty look up and down when I walked in. "She basically hired me" meaning she gave m a start date as well as offering to meet with another family for a nanny share. Face it jealousy does exist in the work place. You sound very insecure on this post now be gone if you have nothing nice to say. It's always easier for you to judge when you're on the outside looking in you should be ashamed of yourself. Instead of trying to figure out what's wrong with my post you should offer positive advice.

A start date and offering another meeting is not a job offer. "I'm calling to offer you the nanny position" is a job offer. I always hedged with saying things like "you would start on XX" but know many people might say "you will start on XX" and basically hold the conversation as if the candidate would get the job even if they are still evaluating -- and the candidate should really do the same as well until they're sure they don't take the job. For your sake don't assume you have a job unless you get a clear verbal/written offer with all details.

[Anonymous]

I agree

[Anonymous]

LOL. She probably found a better candidate. There are a million possible reasons she didn't hire you -- maybe because you're young and immature?

Personally I don't care about the looks of our caregivers, but I've noticed that my kids prefer pretty people, and since winning over my kids is one of the hurdles of the job, that gives pretty candidates an edge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. She probably found a better candidate. There are a million possible reasons she didn't hire you -- maybe because you're young and immature?

Personally I don't care about the looks of our caregivers, but I've noticed that my kids prefer pretty people, and since winning over my kids is one of the hurdles of the job, that gives pretty candidates an edge.

why the negativity ? I'm young yes but that doesn't make me immature, thanks but no thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. She probably found a better candidate. There are a million possible reasons she didn't hire you -- maybe because you're young and immature?

Personally I don't care about the looks of our caregivers, but I've noticed that my kids prefer pretty people, and since winning over my kids is one of the hurdles of the job, that gives pretty candidates an edge.

why the negativity ? I'm young yes but that doesn't make me immature, thanks but no thanks.

Your posts here come off as immature, and you might well in person, too. I don't know how to help you fix that. Sorry.