Child Abuse?

[Anonymous]

We share a nanny with another family and both our daughters are about 7 months old. Caught on the Nest Cam was the nanny feeding one baby while my DD was in her walker crying. The nanny gets up, holding the baby, then grabs my baby by her overall strap and pulls her out of the walker. The walker rose up in the air about two feet before falling to the floor. Still holding her by the strap she carries her over to a blanket on the floor. I fired her but I'm really tempted to share the video with the police. She did not come through an agency so I have no means to red flag her. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

I don't think that qualifies as child abuse. I am guessing the nanny was foreign-born, right? Many foreign born nannies are rough in the handling of babies.

[Anonymous]

You ate ridiculous, OP. I vividly recall grabbing my children by both front and back if overall strap if that was the only way i could grab them.

[Anonymous]

That is not abuse OP.

Firing her was more than sufficient action to take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You ate ridiculous, OP. I vividly recall grabbing my children by both front and back if overall strap if that was the only way i could grab them.

Exactly this. How on earth is that abuse? Was she hitting your child at the same time? Screaming at her? No? She addressed the needs of a crying baby while also feeding another baby. Good grief, what did you want her to do? Leave your baby to cry in the walker or leave the other hungry (and thus needier) baby to cry on the couch from an interrupted feeding? You wanted to save money with a nanny share and this is what you got. Think you'll get better in a daycare center? Nope. Get over yourself and try not to raise a whiny self-important child who thinks the world needs to stop to meet their every fuss.

[Anonymous]

That's not abusive at all that is called multi tasking . She was trying to take care of your baby while feeding the other .

[Anonymous]

OP, while I don't think it's abuse, please take the advice above with a grain of salt. These people are likely nannies who would not think twice about doing the same thing. It's not okay. But it shows you how many like-minded people there are in this world - how many people you need to take care not to hire in the future.

Would your child be left to cry at a center where a few caretakers are balancing the needs of more babies? Probably, yes. But they would also be fired from a professional environment for behaving the way your nanny behaved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, while I don't think it's abuse, please take the advice above with a grain of salt. These people are likely nannies who would not think twice about doing the same thing. It's not okay. But it shows you how many like-minded people there are in this world - how many people you need to take care not to hire in the future.

Would your child be left to cry at a center where a few caretakers are balancing the needs of more babies? Probably, yes. But they would also be fired from a professional environment for behaving the way your nanny behaved.

So wise one, what should the nanny have done in that situation? Please, enlighten us.

[Anonymous]

The baby would have been more than okay until the nanny had finished feeding.

[Anonymous]

If I were the said Nanny, I likely would have continued feeding the baby that I was feeding & let your baby cry.

I would talk to your baby at the same time and even sing songs to entertain him/her.

This is a perfect example of why Nanny shares for infants are a very bad idea.

Because one baby will usually be crying as the other one gets fed or changed.

It is literally impossible for a Nanny to attend to dual needs at the same time.

Please get an individual Nanny for your child.
At least until he/she is around two years old.

[Anonymous]

Those walkers and "entertainment" contraptions are HORRIFIC! Please stop using them if you want your child to develop normally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, while I don't think it's abuse, please take the advice above with a grain of salt. These people are likely nannies who would not think twice about doing the same thing. It's not okay. But it shows you how many like-minded people there are in this world - how many people you need to take care not to hire in the future.

Would your child be left to cry at a center where a few caretakers are balancing the needs of more babies? Probably, yes. But they would also be fired from a professional environment for behaving the way your nanny behaved.

So wise one, what should the nanny have done in that situation? Please, enlighten us.

Longtime twin nanny here. If you haven't figured out how to tandem feed 7mos or babywear an upset child or how to safely lift a baby out of one of those devices, then you have no business in a nanny share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, while I don't think it's abuse, please take the advice above with a grain of salt. These people are likely nannies who would not think twice about doing the same thing. It's not okay. But it shows you how many like-minded people there are in this world - how many people you need to take care not to hire in the future.

Would your child be left to cry at a center where a few caretakers are balancing the needs of more babies? Probably, yes. But they would also be fired from a professional environment for behaving the way your nanny behaved.

So wise one, what should the nanny have done in that situation? Please, enlighten us.

Please see responses posted after your inane question to see how professional nannies/decent human beings would have handled the situation. The fact that you couldn't come up with the alternatives on your own is scary. Please don't have kids. Or work as a childcare provider.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and I don't consider the situation abusive.
Not the best way to act, sure, but abusive NO.
We only have 2 hands, sometimes this kind of situation happens. She didn't harm your daughter on purpose, she was rough in the way she handled her.
You were right to fire her if YOU felt this is what you had to do.

[Anonymous]

I don't consider this abusive, but I don't consider it safe or professional.