MB lying
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Anonymous
| I work for a HP family in NYC. Both DB and MB are fairly well known and MB is super active on social media. They're a great down to earth family and I enjoy working for them but there are two main issues. MB kind of shows up when she feels like it and she lies. I usually don't care about the lateness because rhtyw compensate me 3x my rate whenever they're late. But a few days ago I had plans and I told MB I really needed to leave by a certain time (an hour past my scheduled end time). She said no problem, she'd be there by my end time. DB is working long late hours now so I usually can only be relieved by her. Time comes for her to be home. Nothing. I text, no response. 30 minutes late and I check her social media (which is public and has thousands of followers) and she's posted that she's at a restaurant! She's posted like 5 things about being at a restaurant. I text again. No response. She arrived home 2 hours late and bald face lies. Says there was an issue with the subways and her phone had no service so she couldn't respond. A) she did have service because she could post three stories to Instagram b) she was eating ramen 4 miles away when she said she'd be home. It took zero investigation to find out those were lies. I was so livid, but she has this way of being playful and nice and I let it go. But the lying and lateness thing keeps happening... if you are gonna lie don't post the truth for the public eye to see. |
Anonymous
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You've worked for this family long enough to know that you can't count on them to be home when they say they will. They think they're paying for that flexibility.
The one last thing you could try is to ask her if there is an alternative plan you could implement when you absolutely, positively have to leave. Is there a maid who could take over until they get home? A neighbor? A grandparent? If they say "no" to this, then you either half to give up the idea of after-work plans or quit. |
Anonymous
| Are you sure she's the only one posting to her social media? She might have someone helping her manage it and posting stuff later. |
Anonymous
This is a good point. Especially if she's HP. It would actually be a little strange for her to be informing her hundreds of followers where she is, and letting them know she's there for hours. |
Anonymous
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If the money is good, this just might be a trade-off sadly.
Only you can decide if it is worth the higher pay. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Stop scheduling things on work days. Done. I work for professionals whose job makes an end time impossible to predict. Their being high profile has nothing to do with it. You'd have the same problem working for a dentist, surgeon, fireman etc. |
Anonymous
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Same problem with big law mb.
Just don't schedule anything definite after work. |
Anonymous
| You need a back up plan for someone to tie you. Personally, I would not work for someone who lies. |
Anonymous
| You need a back up plan for someone to tie you. Personally, I would not work for someone who lies. |
Anonymous
There are some family members close by, and we have a back up nanny. I guess my issue is that Mb swore up and down she'd be there in time. I wish she would have scheduled someone to come in the event she was late. She assured me it wouldn't happen. She does this a lot. |
Anonymous
She is 100% the only one posting on her social media. She's not the type to have her agent or manager run her Instagram or Twitter. Some of what she posted could be from earlier, that's possible. But it wouldn't be out of character for her to post pictures while she is there. She's pretty laid back about most everything. It's a hot issue with her and DB, posting pictures of the kids faces or of them at the park. |
Anonymous
I usually don't... this was one of the rare times I had and event scheduled that I really wanted to attend and it was on a work day. Plus, my schedule is insane fepenending on NF schedule. Sometimes I'm with the kiddos 7 days a week for a month. I want to be able to have my own life at some point. |
Anonymous
It sounds like the trade offs for this job are not working for you any more. You said "she does this a lot." There is no reason to believe she's going to change. They offer a lot of money so they don't have to think about you having a life. Yes, that does mean they kind of suck as human beings. |
Anonymous
| "next time should I drop the kids off at the restaurant from which you are tweeting?" |
Anonymous
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You are an idiot.
This bit of information you've given immediately clued me off to who you work for... You are right about one thing. Your MB has an Instagram problem. |