Nanny referred to ds as "what's his name"

[Anonymous]

I came home early the other day and heard nanny recounting the day to my dh. She was discussing an issue at his school and I heard her say "uh uh what's his name" then giggled and said "you know what I'm saying" to dh. He giggled and blew it off and then they began complaining about the teachers and school together. At that point I walked in the room and announced I was home. She did look tired but I found this very uncaring of her and the fact that dh thought it was funny or cute and hearing them commiserate together rubbed me the wrong way.

[Anonymous]

I can see why you are bugged. Overall has she been taking good care of your child? If so I'd let it go. She had a brain fart a couple of times I've called my son my dog's name or my husband's name.

[Anonymous]

Oh, who cares?! I have forgotten my own kids' names from time to time!

Silly post.

[Anonymous]

You sound upset that your husband was laughing with the nanny, OP. Jealousy?

Who cares if she blanks on your child's name? I do it all the time and I am his mother.

[Anonymous]

I call my kids the dog's name sometimes. Other times I look at them and completely blank on their names.

[Anonymous]

I do this all the time. The thought of it bothering my employer is mind boggling.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure she wasn't referring to a teacher?
Reading between the lines, it sounds like there is more going on here. How happy are you with her generally?

[Anonymous]

Oh, please, OP - calm down! You are really being ridiculous.

I have four charges (three different jobs) and yesterday I did the one-syllable-name-run when calling the youngest one: "Con-Jay-Min-Larla!" My MB bust out laughing.

[Anonymous]

Mb here. You're being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

They were probably giggling because they also have inside jokes about what a miserable bitch you are. Maybe your kid will luck out and DH will run off with the nanny and the 3 of them can escape your craziness.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks for the responses. To the nasty ones, that really wasn't necessary. I am not in any way shape or form jealous of our nanny and she and my husband can talk about whatever they like.

My issue was just that she doesn't seem this way when she is with me. It's always more professional and it seemed as if she and dh don't take things that should be, seriously. I just kept trying to imagine her being this lax with me in a convo and can't even picture it. She certainly wouldn't joke about my children's names and just call them any ole thing the way she did with him. I don't know, maybe she was just trying to make dh laugh.

She is a great nanny and the longest we have had one. We are very pleased and she knows how much I appreciate her. But the way they were chatting just sort of made me wonder if she is "turning it on" for me when I'm around and when I'm not she just lets go.

We have nanny cams (don't use them anymore but they are still in place) and when she first started we used them for about a year and always liked what we saw. But of course you can't hear what is being said on camera. It just made me wonder how she speaks to the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were probably giggling because they also have inside jokes about what a miserable bitch you are. Maybe your kid will luck out and DH will run off with the nanny and the 3 of them can escape your craziness.

Op here. This was very ugly and I am far from miserable. It's hard to explain what I meant but I'm not jealous. My goodness you sound like you should write for a soap opera.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the responses. To the nasty ones, that really wasn't necessary. I am not in any way shape or form jealous of our nanny and she and my husband can talk about whatever they like.

My issue was just that she doesn't seem this way when she is with me. It's always more professional and it seemed as if she and dh don't take things that should be, seriously. I just kept trying to imagine her being this lax with me in a convo and can't even picture it. She certainly wouldn't joke about my children's names and just call them any ole thing the way she did with him. I don't know, maybe she was just trying to make dh laugh.

She is a great nanny and the longest we have had one. We are very pleased and she knows how much I appreciate her. But the way they were chatting just sort of made me wonder if she is "turning it on" for me when I'm around and when I'm not she just lets go.

We have nanny cams (don't use them anymore but they are still in place) and when she first started we used them for about a year and always liked what we saw. But of course you can't hear what is being said on camera. It just made me wonder how she speaks to the kids.

How many nannies have you had?

Chances are that the nanny just doesn't care for you as much as she likes your DH. It is not the end of the world, OP. You are making way too much out of this one incident (which yes - does lead me to think that there is something else going on with you that has nothing to do with the nanny).

[Anonymous]

OP:
Not trying to be snarky (honest!!), but I really think deep down you are bothered by how well your hubby gets along w/your Nanny.

It's not the easiest thing to admit, I know....But why else would you come on here & rant to us??

Men by nature are typically more laid-back about EVERYTHING + your Nanny probably is more laid back and easygoing than you are.

Try to loosen up and don't sweat the "small" stuff.
Really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the responses. To the nasty ones, that really wasn't necessary. I am not in any way shape or form jealous of our nanny and she and my husband can talk about whatever they like.

My issue was just that she doesn't seem this way when she is with me. It's always more professional and it seemed as if she and dh don't take things that should be, seriously. I just kept trying to imagine her being this lax with me in a convo and can't even picture it. She certainly wouldn't joke about my children's names and just call them any ole thing the way she did with him. I don't know, maybe she was just trying to make dh laugh.

She is a great nanny and the longest we have had one. We are very pleased and she knows how much I appreciate her. But the way they were chatting just sort of made me wonder if she is "turning it on" for me when I'm around and when I'm not she just lets go.

We have nanny cams (don't use them anymore but they are still in place) and when she first started we used them for about a year and always liked what we saw. But of course you can't hear what is being said on camera. It just made me wonder how she speaks to the kids.

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Yeah. Can't imagine why she is more laid back and friendly with your husband. It's not like you are uptight and judgemental...