Doing something for Nanny

[Anonymous]

DD's nanny was full-time and now is very part-time since DD started preschool. She only is with DD for about 6 or 7 hours a week but they are still very close. A month ago, Nanny invited DD and I to her new charge's birthday party. I said yes and DD wants to go. But I am so tired from work and really don't feel like spending 2 hours of our precious weekend to go to a kid's birthday party whom I have never met.

I know it is important to our nanny. She really wants a picture of DD and her new charge together.

How important is it to go to this party for the nanny?

[Anonymous]

Would your DD be okay with being left at the party alone whilst you go off and have a coffee/go shopping? If not, I would just go to the party. Your nanny sounds like she is worth her weight in gold and it sounds like it is important to her

[Anonymous]

I would go. You don't have to go for the whole time - tell her you can't make the whole thing but you will definitely come by. Then go for 45 minutes or so - long enough for the photo and for your daughter to have a bit of fun.

[Anonymous]

Why did you say yes, OP? Do you often say "yes" when you mean, "maybe we'll be able to come?" It doesn't matter who invites you to what for what reason. Once you've said "yes," it's going to hurt someone's feelings when you bail.

But no, there's no way to not show up and have everyone be ok about it.

Do I think this little girl cares if you come? No. Does your old nanny? Clearly.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do it. But the difference is, I'd have told the nanny that doesn't work for us. You committed so now you have to follow through.

[Anonymous]

It is important to you child and your nanny. Why isn't that enough for you?

[Anonymous]

I would definitely go. It is a small favor for someone who has been a good employee. Your child will have fun playing and with any luck nap time or bedtime will be easier than normal.

[Anonymous]

You could always ask your former Nanny if she will be okay w/you just dropping off your daughter.

However like another poster stated, if you committed already it wouldn't be fair to your former Nanny if you flaked + changed your mind.

Plus I bet your daughter will have a good time.

Parenting is hugely about sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could always ask your former Nanny if she will be okay w/you just dropping off your daughter.

However like another poster stated, if you committed already it wouldn't be fair to your former Nanny if you flaked + changed your mind.

Plus I bet your daughter will have a good time.

Parenting is hugely about sacrifice.

"Parenting is hugely about sacrifice." Your poor grammar aside, is spending an hour doing something for the woman who cared for and loves your child really a "sacrifice"!!