Advice Needed
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Anonymous
| Recently took a position and starting to rethink it. Mom is constantly worried about her child which is understandable as a first time parent but I'm starting to wonder if she needs help. They constantly have the child's grandparents 'visiting' so I'm never alone but it makes the day go by really long. I was allowing baby to cry for maybe 20 seconds to see if he could self soothe but mom wants him coddled- basically he should never cry and IF he does swoop in and see what's wrong. I work upwards of 14 hours a day and my charge doesn't nap. I can take 30min to eat use the restroom but am supposed to be in my charges face coddling, talking to playing with the remainder of the day. Just started las week and am already burnt out. They had 2 nannies prior but for unspecified reasons were terminated. Any advice appreciated. |
Anonymous
| If you do not agree with the parenting style of your employers then I would suggest a new position. I hope this doesn't sound harsh. I am a nanny. Child care theories and methods are very diverse. I might make suggestions sometimes, but it is the parents who decide what is and isn't allowed. And only you know if what they want is feasible for you. |
Anonymous
I agree with you and try to pick my positions very carefully. The trail week went fine, once I agreed to the position is when the job description/wants needs changed. I feel like I was hit with a bait and switch. |
Anonymous
| gove 3 weeks notice and be gone! |
Anonymous
| how does the baby never nap? |
Anonymous
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I am a nanny who would do well in your position (except for the grandparents). I held my charge pretty much constantly for the first year (horrible reflux and torticollis) and he napped in my arms. When he was awake I engaged him or read to him or sang to him. I would put him in a bouncy seat when I used the toilet but other than that I did everything one handed. I started putting him in his crib around nine months and he transitioned easily. I never, ever let him cry. He is a wonderful and happy 3.5 year old now - so smart and well-adjusted. There is no one path to a happy, healthy child.
Here is what I could not take for more than an annual visit - grandparents! No, no and hell no! |
Anonymous
| You're working MORE than 14 hours a day? What the hell are you doing? The baby should be sleeping more than 10 hours a day. |
Anonymous
You should have quit after the first week. The mom is crazy. |
Anonymous
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Can you please answer the question how the baby doesn't nap? It's up all day?
How old is it? |
Anonymous
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This sounds like a very difficult position OP.
It seems you must be giving this child your all, ALL the time which would wear anyone out. This Mother's style of parenting is unreal to me. I just wonder if she does all of this stuff when she is alone w/her baby? Definitely leave as soon as you are able to. If you stay, things will only get progressively worse & things will not end well. It's also a huge red flag that two former Nannies were fired before you. Good luck. |