If you felt nanny was looking too skinny

[Anonymous]

And ill (pale and tired looking) would you say something?

[Anonymous]

It is always ok to ask, nicely, and with concern, if someone you see every day is feeling ok if they look sick. It is never ok to comment on someone's appearance. Fi she says she's fine, then drop it.

[Anonymous]

I might say that I understand wanting to keep things personal, but I couldn't help but notice you seem pale lately and I'm hoping you're feeling alright.

Then leave it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say anything less she gets offended.

But I do understand your genuine concern.

[Anonymous]

It is none if your business. You would have a fit if she commented on how you look. Nannies are employees not a slave owned by you. BOUNDARIES

[Anonymous]

'Larla, Are you okay? You are looking a little pale lately and just wanted to check in to see if there was anything I could do.'
I wouldn't ignore it, just word it politely.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB and my kid's nanny always asks how I'm doing (when I obviously tired, and/or when she knows I've come back from a 2-week trip 8 time zones away...). I also always ask her if she is ok, if she seems sluggish or low-energy. But I would never say "you look pale/skinny/etc." Just ask her how she is doing, genuinely, and consider offering a few extra hours free to let her rest if you can manage an early pickup or later morning drop-off.

[Anonymous]

Problem with that PP is that she is bound to say she is fine even if she is not. I would be a bit more direct if I was really concerned. Yes there are boundaries but I wouldn't be okay if I didn't think my nanny was okay if that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Problem with that PP is that she is bound to say she is fine even if she is not. I would be a bit more direct if I was really concerned. Yes there are boundaries but I wouldn't be okay if I didn't think my nanny was okay if that makes sense.

Actually, she's not necessarily going to say that if she has been looking for an opening to talk about something. However, if she does say that, she's an adult and she's allowed to be as private as she wants about her health.

[Anonymous]

Does she eat your food or bring her own?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Brings her own, not that I see any evidence of her eating in terms of wrappers, packets etc....