This family is a doozy
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Anonymous
| So I started working for this family in October as a nanny and also "helping" the then pregnant mom around the house which is a 3 story 5 bedroom house. The children are 3 and 5 year old boys and a now 6 month old girl. Now 7 months in I feel I am being taken advantage of. They are a super nice family but the duties and the mom being inconsiderate has me one the verge of quitting. The only way to help you understand why I feel like I'm being taken advantage of is to run you through my day : I arrive at 6am Monday thru Friday wake up everyone including the mom as the dad is already gone to work. Make breakfast and lunches and get kids ready for school all with baby in arms. The mom then takes the two boys to school. I am then responsible for cleaning up the disgusting mess from the night before because no one here cleans up after themselves (old bottles,sippy cups, food etc) mop and vacuum whole house, do ALL laundry and they change 3-4 times a day, dishes, basically whole house cleaning EVERYDAY. She had me moving mattresses to third floor the other day. That was kinda my breaking point. All with caring for an infant while she is out EVERYDAY shopping (Gucci, all designer things, Botox etc) and getting nails and hair done as she has yet to bond with her baby since she was born. She also probably once a week asks me to go home at my normal time which is 5 pm and come back at 7pm so she can go out or whatever then comes home at midnight or later then expects me to be back at 6am he next day and also work pretty much every weekend I've worked 6-7 days a week for the past 2 months and all for $10 an hour except weekends I make $15 an hour. And mind you I HAVE A FAMILY OF MY OWN I have a husband And almost 3 year old and my family depends on my income as my husband is getting his business started. So I'm at a loss on how to go about this issue because I love the kids and they love me |
Anonymous
Ohh nooo you don't deserve this, there is to many job opportunities there. You are not a slave and even less for $10 an hour?? depend on the are you work minimum should be $15 per hour and only for nanny job not for being their maid. Start sending your information to different jobs, create a good profile and just start sending your information to the jobs here in D.C. Urban mom at least 3 of 5 people will reply you back and then you can start from there. Is not imposible and you don't deserve this, your family needs you too.
I hope every goes well |
Anonymous
| Either you're a troll or naive or something else. Quit. Find a job that pays an actual wage and overtime for above 40 hrs. We have a nanny and one 15 month old and pay double what you're getting and there is only baby laundry and cleaning her food and baby dishes. I do all the housework and nanny has a clean house she comes to everyday. Find a new job. |
Anonymous
| You should have quit the first day. |
Anonymous
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I agree with PP. Why are you wakin up a grown woman too?
They are treating you like a slave and it will continue unless you quit. You can do so much better. |
Anonymous
| 6:00 am? Wake up a mother? Laundry, housekeeping? Go home at 5 pm and back at 7pm? On call? R u kidding me $10/h? R u for real? Why are you still there. This woman can buy Gucci all day then she can pay afford to pay you market rate $25/h for all that work you do. |
Anonymous
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I always roll my eyes at these threads.
"My boss is terrible and my working conditions arw difficult and illegal!" Um, okay? If you have better options, why do you still work for them? If you don't have better options then the family isn't the problem; it's you. What are you going to do to improve the options available to you? The nanny market is wide and varied and every time someone says, "I would never accept that treatment," all it really means is that they have better options. If you also have better options, then let me stress: YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO WORK FOR JERKS! But in this post alone I see plenty of proof that you aren't all that professional. Why did you start part time and escalate? Did you have trouble finding work? Why did you agree to be paid illegally (since you receive time-and-a-half only on weekends rather than after 40 hours, you are obviously not paid on the books)? Why are you so concerned with what your employer is doing during the day? It doesn't matter what ahe is doing with her time or what brands she wears. You accepted a job to work these duties during these hours. You are supposed to be a professional providing a service, not a charity caring for the children of deserving poor. If she is undeserving, who cares as long as her check clears? |
Anonymous
| You aren't a nanny, OP, you are a housekeeper who babysits. Don't post here again until you quit and actually become a real nanny. |
Anonymous
+1 And you are underpaid as a housekeeper. |
Anonymous
| Stop the vile negativity. This woman is absolutely a nanny and is being treated unfairly. Walk in other's shoes before you judge them. |
Anonymous
NP and I disagree. OP is a housekeeper who looks after the children - she is not a nanny. Tell me what the responsibilities of a housekeeper are, PP - and then tell me where OP is not fulfilling all of them. A nanny care and teaches children. OP is not a nanny. The truth in this case is negative and I have no intention of sugar-coating it ether. OP gives true nannies a bad name. |
Anonymous
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Um, No. Many nannies are expected to cook, clean and do chores for their NF. Difference here is that OP is being exploited in terms of this and the childcare.
Never heard anything so stupid. Of course many nannies are expected to be part housekeeper. Are you telling me your MB never asks you to cook, clean or run an errand for her? |
Anonymous
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Why the heck did you take this job for $10/hr? Ridiculous. As you were describing it, $20/hr seemed more realistic.
You have 2 options. Either: - Start interviewing now for a new job and quit as soon as you get one or, - go to her and say- this is way more work than I anticipated as a mother's helper. This is a full-time nanny/housekeeper job, and I expect to be paid as such. I want a raise to $20/hr commensurate with my responsibilities. She will either agree, or fire you on the spot and then you can search for job full-time. Don't be a doormat. - MB |
Anonymous
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People, please stop this whole blame the victim mentality.
It does no good for helping the OP w/the advice & support she so deserves. OP, if you can afford to do so....Walk off this job immediately. Tomorrow just don't even show up. For $10/Hr you are basically giving them a deal of a lifetime. To clean the entire house along w/childcare is slavery in the 21st Century. And talk about job creep. Moving a mattress....???!! Next week she will have you scrubbing toilets and raking leaves. In my state, ten dollars an Hr is lower than minimum wage. Leave this family high + dry. It doesn't look like the Mother even works anyway so it's not like anyone will end up missing work if you quit. Worse case scenario is the Mom will miss a Botox injection & will have to live w/forehead wrinkles until she finds a replacement Nanny. Too bad. |
Anonymous
Yes, that is exactly what I am saying. I have never washed a dish for my employers (for my charge - yes, of course). No nanny that I know is expected to be part housekeeper, PP. That is the truth. While I assume that many foreign nannies are exploited that way, it is simply not the case in my circle of all college educated nannies. My job is to care for and teach my charge. |