I received phone call from my ex boss new nanny

[Anonymous]

She call and asked me few questions. Should I tell her the truth?

My ex MB is a liar, manipulative, con person.

[Anonymous]

No you should lie. Everyone prefers liars over truth tellers. Of course you tell the truth. How is this even a question??

[Anonymous]

What if she told my ex MB and quit the job? right now I just want to stay away from my ex boss.

[Anonymous]

Tell the truth.

[Anonymous]

If she already accepted the job why is she calling now.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would tell her the truth but I would be careful. I would not do any name-calling, for example. Just tell what MB did to you. So instead of saying that she was manipulative, say that she once ________. Include her good qualities.

Whatever you do, so not engage in gossip with the new nanny! She is obviously calling you because she is having a problem.

[Anonymous]

Meet up with the new nanny for coffee, if you can.

And yes, absolutely be completely honest. Wouldn't you want a former employer to be honest if you called to ask some questions? Same thing here.

This is why nannies should ALWAYS ask for contact info of former nannies or sitters. If parents are hesitant, there's a reason. Beware.

[Anonymous]

Be very careful. Always protect yourself first OP. You don't owe anyone anything here (you didn't mislead the new nanny in any way, right?)

You may need a reference from that job, you don't know what the new nanny might say about you, etc...

If you talk with her I would be extremely careful and remember to protect your own reputation and references first.

- MB

[Anonymous]

I lied to a new nanny, only because I was afraid to lose a good reference from the family.

The children were awful and ruled the house, the dad was a slave driver and the mom a total pushover.

I told the new nanny, "the children are spirited, DB is Type A and MB is a real sweetheart. If they found out I shit talked them to the new nanny I could lose them as a reference

[Anonymous]

Be very diplomatic, OP.

[Anonymous]

Good morning,

OP here. I told the new nanny I rate my ex MB as 8 (on the scale of 1 to 10).

Today my ex MB text and told me that the new nanny was bad! Not feeding her child, send them to daycare very late and not cleaning the hse after breakfast etc. She fired the new nanny and want me to help her one or two days a week.

I read the new nanny profile on Care.com. She has 5 stars review from 5 families. Now I curious to know the "truth" from this new nanny. Should I call her?


Thanks and happy Saturday.

[Anonymous]

yes

[Anonymous]

No.

Do not involve yourself. Unless you love drama and stress of course.

But just stay out of it, really. There is no good that will come of willingly involving yourself in a game of "she said, she said". None.

Be a professional and stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

Do not involve yourself. Unless you love drama and stress of course.

But just stay out of it, really. There is no good that will come of willingly involving yourself in a game of "she said, she said". None.

Be a professional and stay out of it.

+1 Stay out of it. No good can come from getting involved in the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Do not involve yourself. Unless you love drama and stress of course.

But just stay out of it, really. There is no good that will come of willingly involving yourself in a game of "she said, she said". None.

Be a professional and stay out of it.

+1 Stay out of it. No good can come from getting involved in the drama.

Why?? References are vital. Better late than never. Sorry!