MB vent

[Anonymous]

She comes home all hyper almost and starts nitpicking in an almost passive aggressive way. DD had a bright colored top on (Not white) and MB said to her 'You can't wear that, it is too light a color, Your mouth is dirty too. Sit down. I can't understand what you are saying when you speak so fast.' She comes home and comments on DD having a dirty face, (She is 7 and had just eaten dinner). She also seems to acknowledge me as an after thought. I like her most the time but wow, can she be annoying and make me feel like I am not doing my job right. Should I ignore it or pull her up on it?

[Anonymous]

Wow. I feel bad for that little girl. I tend to ignore my nanny when I walk in the door too, but to give my kids hugs and kisses since I haven't seen them all day...not to criticize them.

[Anonymous]

My MB does this too. I think it's motivated by some combination of guilt for being gone so much and to feel important, i.e. Mom knows best. It doesn't bother me but I do sometimes wish she'd just come in and play with her kid happily instead of moving directly to what isn't perfect.

[Anonymous]

Why does the child own the shirt if the mother doesn't want her to wear it? If I were you I would say to the mother "Oh, did you want me to go through Chloe's drawers and pull out everything she has that's pale yellow for you to donate?"

[Anonymous]

She didn't want her to wear it for dinner. I just feel it would be nice if she came in, said hello, asked how everything was and cuddled her DD. It just feels like she is rude and ungrateful. I get she has had a busy day but I find it hard taking her mood out on us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She didn't want her to wear it for dinner. I just feel it would be nice if she came in, said hello, asked how everything was and cuddled her DD. It just feels like she is rude and ungrateful. I get she has had a busy day but I find it hard taking her mood out on us.

Lets look at it from her perspective: She's exhausted. Had a long commute, long day at work, may have more work to do at home, still has to cook, clean, grocery shop and much more. Very few parents come home and sit and cuddle with their kids. As a nanny, you know she likes her child clean. Why not wipe her face if mom is coming home? Maybe one day fix the entire family dinner and get things picked up even if it isn't fully your job so she has time to "cuddle." Remember you go home at night as this is your job. She still has much more to do when she's home.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like she's taking adderall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She didn't want her to wear it for dinner. I just feel it would be nice if she came in, said hello, asked how everything was and cuddled her DD. It just feels like she is rude and ungrateful. I get she has had a busy day but I find it hard taking her mood out on us.

Lets look at it from her perspective: She's exhausted. Had a long commute, long day at work, may have more work to do at home, still has to cook, clean, grocery shop and much more. Very few parents come home and sit and cuddle with their kids. As a nanny, you know she likes her child clean. Why not wipe her face if mom is coming home? Maybe one day fix the entire family dinner and get things picked up even if it isn't fully your job so she has time to "cuddle." Remember you go home at night as this is your job. She still has much more to do when she's home.

Because the nanny has so much of an easier life and of couse it is okay for the MB to be rude and snappy. She works so hard and it is SO hard being a mother. 'Rolls eyes'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me like she's taking adderall.

Sorry to be dumb but what is that?

[Anonymous]

^^^To answer your question: Amphetamine / Dextroamphetamine
Brand name: Adderall
Stimulant
It can treat ADHD. It can also treat narcolepsy.
Controlled substance

[Anonymous]

Interesting, thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She didn't want her to wear it for dinner. I just feel it would be nice if she came in, said hello, asked how everything was and cuddled her DD. It just feels like she is rude and ungrateful. I get she has had a busy day but I find it hard taking her mood out on us.

Lets look at it from her perspective: She's exhausted. Had a long commute, long day at work, may have more work to do at home, still has to cook, clean, grocery shop and much more. Very few parents come home and sit and cuddle with their kids. As a nanny, you know she likes her child clean. Why not wipe her face if mom is coming home? Maybe one day fix the entire family dinner and get things picked up even if it isn't fully your job so she has time to "cuddle." Remember you go home at night as this is your job. She still has much more to do when she's home.

Bull. Smile and greet your children with a hug.

[Anonymous]

And say hello&smile at your nanny. She doesn't have to work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She didn't want her to wear it for dinner. I just feel it would be nice if she came in, said hello, asked how everything was and cuddled her DD. It just feels like she is rude and ungrateful. I get she has had a busy day but I find it hard taking her mood out on us.

Lets look at it from her perspective: She's exhausted. Had a long commute, long day at work, may have more work to do at home, still has to cook, clean, grocery shop and much more. Very few parents come home and sit and cuddle with their kids. As a nanny, you know she likes her child clean. Why not wipe her face if mom is coming home? Maybe one day fix the entire family dinner and get things picked up even if it isn't fully your job so she has time to "cuddle." Remember you go home at night as this is your job. She still has much more to do when she's home.

Why can't the 7 year old wipe her own face?
also, if the nanny is serving the kid dinner that means mom doesn't have to.

[Anonymous]

Mom guilt.