MB acting weird

[Anonymous]

I was upset in front of DB (Not crying before anyone judges me, just distressed.). Reason being was because their DD had gone against my wishes and done something very dangerous. MB texted me about it and said I was on the right page with how I had dealt with it all and praised my nannying abilities. I see her in person twice now and she hasn't mentioned the incident and seems irritated. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

My thoughts are that you are likely over thinking this.

[Anonymous]

What do you want her to say about the incident? She already addressed it. It's over and done.

As to the other, please keep in mind that when you go to this person's home, you're at work, but when they come home, they've LEFT work. When I get home my head is still often swimming with everything that happened at work. I'm making a mental to-do list for the next day. Maybe she's thinking about work.

[Anonymous]

It would have been nice for her to address it in person. It wouldn't have had to have been a big deal. Just an acknowledgement. Important to keep face to face communication with nanny and nanny needs to be on the list of priorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My thoughts are that you are likely over thinking this.

Yup.

She addressed it, she thinks you handled it well, and she thinks it's in the past. SHe may have a zillion other things on her mind.

[Anonymous]

Why would she bring it up again?

[Anonymous]

I find it weird not to address it in person. For everyone who is saying that she may have a zillion things on her mind, communication with the nanny (Face to face) should be paramount importance. If it were me, I would just say 'Larla, Just to recap on what I said in my text, Dave and I are really happy with how you care for Larlo so plesse don't doubt yourself on what happened.'
No biggie, Everyone is happy, air is cleared.

[Anonymous]

But the MB doesn't know there is "air to be cleared". She thinks that her husband spoke w/ the nanny, and that she backed that up and was positive/supportive about how the nanny handled it.

I wouldn't assume that a nanny needed a third reinforcement at this point. But if the OP wants to talk about it further then she should bring it up. An easy way to do that would be to say "Thanks for your email about that incident. I was pretty scared and was glad that you and Joe thought I handled it well" Then the MB will respond (probably) with some gracious sentiment and it can be done.

But don't expect your boss to be a mind-reader (in any job) or you'll just be disappointed a lot.

[Anonymous]

I think it should have been mentioned in person but perhaps MB felt nanny wanted to forget it. Rather than her not caring, perhaps she felt nanny just wanted to move on from it.