MB acting odd
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Anonymous
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For weeks MB hasn't seemed all that happy with me and I felt she was secretly angry about a past event. Even her texts were not as friendly as usual.
Yesterday, she came home with a bumper Easter giftpack for me and keeps putting loads of kisses on texts. Anyone elses MB like this? I feel like I am working for a different woman. |
Anonymous
| Honestly it sounds like you are a drama queen who is reading WAY too much into both her perceived positived and perceived negative behavior. As the phrase goes, calm your tits. |
Anonymous
Alternatively, her MB is bi-polar and is now on a high. |
Anonymous
You got all of that from the Op? Her boss goes from not even being friendly and I assume blunt and short with communication to bringing gifts and using a ton of emojis and kissy faces in texts. The mb sounds off of her rocker. It's annoying working for a moody person. Op just ignore everything about her except for being a pleasant person to be around, discussing the kids, and saying good bye when it's time to leave. Focus in on the kids and not her moods. I've been there and stopped trying to figure her out. |
Anonymous
| Kisses in texts? Talk about unprofessional. |
Anonymous
| My MB is the same way. One day she is cold and distant, and the next day she is gregarious. It makes me feel very confused like I'm not sure where we stand, if that makes sense. I sometimes feel as though she's mad at me for something, but I can't figure out what. I just continue to do my job the best I can and try not to overthink it. We all have our good and bad days. Maybe she had a rough day at work or something personal is affecting her. I think it may be something to do with the fact that she misses her kids and wishes she could be a SAHM. |
Anonymous
+1 This in itself is just WEIRD as heck. 
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Anonymous
| I also experience this, however your situation sounds a bit extreme. Periods of anger and then periods of being overly nice is what it sounds like? The kissy faces sound a bit alarming and definitely unprofessional. She may actually be bipolar. Are there any other signs that this may be the case? Either way, just keep doing your job and if her behavior becomes more erratic then I would have a conversation with her and/or start searching for another job. |
Anonymous
| A good idea is to maybe have a meeting or check in with her and discuss this in a non-threatening manner. Kindly tell her that you've noticed that her demeanor, at times, is unpredictable. Ask her if she is satisfied with your work performance, or if there is anything else you can do to make her life easier. To be honest, she sounds a little whacky. I would definitely get a letter of recommendation from her first before discussing anything. |
Anonymous
I don't know - maybe... My MB does it all the time and not just to me. |
Anonymous
| BTDT. However, I knew she had been overworked and overstressed at work at the same time that all of the kids were going through something at home and/or school, so it was gratitude for getting the family through the rough patch. She has one of those jobs that goes from normal hours on a light week to highly stressful, working up to 18 hours per day during crazy weeks. I knew going in that it would be a wave, and I'm fine with brief texts and catching up when she has time. I also know that she and I are also very blunt when there are issues, so I knew it wasn't my work performance. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I do feel confused by it all and yes, I now don't know where I stand with her. Perhaps she is just moody and realises she has been like that which explains the extravagant gifts and kisses in texts. I guess I either talk to her when she is being strange and confront her with it or let it go. For someone who has so much in her life it seems strange she would be like this but then maybe it is, as someone said here, a mood disorder. |
Anonymous
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She is crazy and will not stop this EVER. When this was happening to me with a particular mb it confused me. Then I began making a note of when it was occurring.
Turns out whenever we'd had one of her days of prodding into my personal life and giving unsolicited advice or just a great silly day with the kids it would happen the next day. I figured she was trying to reassert boundaries with me as if she thought that I'd get too comfortable and see her as a friend. She was the one with boundary issues and always being too comfortable if it suited her. |
Anonymous
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OP here. With my MB I get the feeling she gets very caught up in her feelings and she can't think beyond herself at those times. When she isn't like that, she is the kindest person ever. I never know what I am going to get.
The hardest thing is trying not to take it personally. There was a time last year when she was walking in the door at the end of the day and just speaking to her DD, completely ignoring me. She would do that for a few days and then the next day would ask how I am and be all friendly. Maybe it is a mood disorder? Will just have to try and not get too personally involved as hard as that is. |
Anonymous
Um...what? That is totally rude and uncalled for. I don't care what she is thinking about. Your mb sounds like a rude cow to treat the person with her child all day long with such disdain. |