This is my last nanny family

[Anonymous]

I have had one really good family, but the others have convinced me that nannying isn't for me.
I've watched racist Mom's get drunk and beat up their husbands wondering why Muslims don't "go back to their country if they're not happy"
Fight with me about putting water in their kids cups.( I wish I made that up. She was mad I diluted their juice!)
Mom's who repeatedly tried to make me the maid.
Parents calling me on the weekend/night bothering me over really dumb things.
Being reprimanded by a child which almost seems ok with the parents. Anytime there is an issue I hear it from nk6. Who also tells me when her parents "hate" what I cook for the family. When the parents send me an email they discuss it with their kids. Wtf? The next morning " Did you get .your parents mean message they left you"
Cooking isn't even in my job description.
$20 an hour isn't enough for all of this
Constantly feeling like what I do isn't enough.
Passive aggressiveness, being blamed for shit the dad's do.
How do you even bring that up without sounding whiny?
" Mb I know you have mentioned me being 2-3 minutes late most mornings, but do you realize your husband is routinely 15-20 minutes late?"
I'm over it all. Which is a shame because I am good at what I do.

[Anonymous]

Aside from the fact that you should NEVER be even one second late, I agree with you - but in many of your examples, you let the situations get out of hand. Being a nanny is a tough job beyond childcare. It is difficult to establish boundaries with parents/employers and have them respected.

I always start a new position with a newborn which makes the growing process easier and open to discussion with the parents. We all move into the relationship and are more adaptable to see it charge as the child grows (and more children are added to the mix).

I love being a nanny, have a degree in Early Childhood Education and much prefer this occupation to teaching. I am very calm and diplomatic but am not a push-over.

I wish you the best in your new career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from the fact that you should NEVER be even one second late, I agree with you - but in many of your examples, you let the situations get out of hand. Being a nanny is a tough job beyond childcare. It is difficult to establish boundaries with parents/employers and have them respected.

I always start a new position with a newborn which makes the growing process easier and open to discussion with the parents. We all move into the relationship and are more adaptable to see it charge as the child grows (and more children are added to the mix).

I love being a nanny, have a degree in Early Childhood Education and much prefer this occupation to teaching. I am very calm and diplomatic but am not a push-over.

I wish you the best in your new career.

Thanks for the response, you're absolutely right about being late.
I too, have a degree in ECE. I'm not always a pushover, but I am a people pleaser. Which is also something I am working on.

[Anonymous]

I am also looking for something different or for a new born/infant or toddlers with respectful parents. Older kids are sweet too, but could be more difficult with their tantrums. And if it wasn't enough to deal with misbehaved kids during the day, then the parents are, as you said, passive-aggressive with comments.

Now, how do you quit if that's the case?

[Anonymous]

There are some wonderful & appreciative families out there, but in your area they just may be few + far between.

If you sincerely love being a Nanny, please try to keep the faith.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am also looking for something different or for a new born/infant or toddlers with respectful parents. Older kids are sweet too, but could be more difficult with their tantrums. And if it wasn't enough to deal with misbehaved kids during the day, then the parents are, as you said, passive-aggressive with comments.

Now, how do you quit if that's the case?

I wonder the same thing. I think the world of my charges, but I won't have any contact when I leave. I'm of two minds. One thinks I should just ride this out until my contract ends in a couple of months. The other thinks I should give them 2 weeks notice.

[Anonymous]

I've had much better luck getting good families by working part time for two families. I tend to find that those mom's are less stressed and more easy going because they're less career driven. On the whole they tend to be happier and less nit picky. I've been doing this for a few years now.

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same thing. I think the world of my charges, but I won't have any contact when I leave. I'm of two minds. One thinks I should just ride this out until my contract ends in a couple of months. The other thinks I should give them 2 weeks notice.

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I've been looking for different families or different areas. If a good opportunity arise or a good family, then I'll give my two weeks of notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had much better luck getting good families by working part time for two families. I tend to find that those mom's are less stressed and more easy going because they're less career driven. On the whole they tend to be happier and less nit picky. I've been doing this for a few years now.

That's a good option too! I did that for a while and it worked great! But it's also hard to find the right match. Also, many of the part time families don't pay for time off (example their vacation, etc...)

[Anonymous]

^^this is true, but for me the trade off is worth the benefit of easier people to deal with. That may or may not be true for you. I tend to get a lot of my jobs through word of mouth and when I have a gap to fill and no prospects, I advertise on Craigslist saying exactly what I'm looking for so I can attract the right family. I've had good luck with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aside from the fact that you should NEVER be even one second late, I agree with you - but in many of your examples, you let the situations get out of hand. Being a nanny is a tough job beyond childcare. It is difficult to establish boundaries with parents/employers and have them respected.

I always start a new position with a newborn which makes the growing process easier and open to discussion with the parents. We all move into the relationship and are more adaptable to see it charge as the child grows (and more children are added to the mix).

I love being a nanny, have a degree in Early Childhood Education and much prefer this occupation to teaching. I am very calm and diplomatic but am not a push-over.

I wish you the best in your new career.

Thanks for the response, you're absolutely right about being late.
I too, have a degree in ECE. I'm not always a pushover, but I am a people pleaser. Which is also something I am working on.

Are you sure? Your OP is barely legible. Please study more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aside from the fact that you should NEVER be even one second late, I agree with you - but in many of your examples, you let the situations get out of hand. Being a nanny is a tough job beyond childcare. It is difficult to establish boundaries with parents/employers and have them respected.

I always start a new position with a newborn which makes the growing process easier and open to discussion with the parents. We all move into the relationship and are more adaptable to see it charge as the child grows (and more children are added to the mix).

I love being a nanny, have a degree in Early Childhood Education and much prefer this occupation to teaching. I am very calm and diplomatic but am not a push-over.

I wish you the best in your new career.

Thanks for the response, you're absolutely right about being late.
I too, have a degree in ECE. I'm not always a pushover, but I am a people pleaser. Which is also something I am working on.

Are you sure? Your OP is barely legible. Please study more.

I'm having issues with my phone (keyboard keeps sticking).
Thanks for the thoughtful reaponse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Are you sure? Your OP is barely legible. Please study more.

There's no need for this type of comment. If you can't read correctly, then YOU need to study a bit more. The rest of us are able to understand.