Disney Vacation - wanting to leave nanny at home
![[Post New]](/nanny-forum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
I have a live-in nanny. She works 40 to 45 hours a week. My kids love her. We try to treat her as part of the family. She has been with us for about three years now.
We were planning to go to Disney World for a week and the cost is a bit more than I expected. The incremental cost of bringing our nanny will be close to $2000 ($300 plane ticket, $400 park admission, $300 food, $800 incremental hotel costs). Because of the expense, I Would like to leave our nanny at home. My wife and I don't need help to watch our kids. Even if our nanny came along, because of how hard we work, we would want be with our kids all the time. On the other hand, if our nanny is supposed to be a part of the "family," I feel bad for leaving her at home. She works hard and the vacation would be an award. What do others think? Should we leave the nanny at home or not? |
Anonymous
|
I've never heard of an expectation that live in nannies are supposed to come along on vacation, unless it was to provide care for the children.
I'm sure your nanny will appreciate the additional time off to do as she wishes. |
Anonymous
She will enjoy an extra week off I'm sure 
Don't worry too much about it. |
Anonymous
| If you're planning to pay her for the week you're gone at Disney she'll be getting a paid vacation. That's awesome. |
Anonymous
| Assuming she has guaranteed hours and will be paid her normal salary, I'm sure she'd much rather have a week off than go to Disney with your family. That is the LAST place I'd want to go! |
Anonymous
Also, she's not your family, she's your employee. I think the expectations in the au pair program are different and they are expected to be treated as family for the time they are in your home. I am not 100% sure on that, but is what I've gathered via forums. |
Anonymous
| As a live in nanny myself who has always been invited on family vacations I would be hurt. I've had employers that didn't need me to work invite me along with the explanation that I need to pay for my own entertainment, food and flight. My hotel accommodations have always been paid for by my employers as they usually get a 2 bedroom suite. |
Anonymous
|
If she's an au pair, then going along for these kind of things is an expected part of the job.
If she's not an au pair, only you know how you have handled previous vacations. Disney is expensive, and you don't need her to work, so I, personally, think it would be fine to leave her home. She can do whatever she likes with that week. Not to mention that while Disney is fun for adults, it's more fun if you go as just adults, or go with your own children. I'm not sure how much she would enjoy Disney if she's not working and she's expected to hang out and watch the kids do kiddie rides. I also think that she's a grown-up, and it would be reasonable to explain it to her: Larla, we just can't swing another $2K. I hope you'll enjoy your week off. |
Anonymous
That would be really expensive at Disney, even if accommodations were covered. |
Anonymous
| She's not family and an employee. Its nice to take her but I would want the time with my kids. I'd give her the week off. |
Anonymous
| Disney world isn't a vacation a grown woman will enjoy. The crowd and heat isn't that great. I am sure she will want to stay home if you don't need her to work. Or if you do let her come, offer her to go do whatever she wants or hang out with you. Her choice but I'd rather be paid the plane ticket money and stay home. |
Anonymous
| This is so weird. Is your nanny really young? I would be thrilled if my nanny family went away for a week without me and gave me a week of paid vacation!! |
Anonymous
| As a nanny, I would not enjoy going to Disney with my family. That being said, I think it is appropriate to tell her your plans and gauge her reaction. Personally, I would much rather have a week off. I think it could be construed as rude to not to at least ask though. If she wants to go then discuss what expenses you will and will not cover. |
Anonymous
|
Trust me on this one....
Disneyworld is NOT the happiest place on Earth!! This is from a Nanny who went w/her Nanny family for five days the first week of April of last year. My god! The heat/humidity was gross & every single thing to do had a line. Even going to the restroom entailed a long line. You could barely get around since the park (Magic Kingdom) was so darn packed. It took like an hour to get from Point A to Point B. The wait time for most of the rides was about three-plus hours. Sure my employers paid for my airfare, hotel accommodations, park tickets + all meals. But in all honesty, I would have loved to take the week off or at the very least, spend my days in the air-conditioned hotel room, ordering room service between napping and watching movies on T.V. You will be doing her a huge favor by leaving her behind plus she can keep an eye on the house while you and your family are gone.
|
Anonymous
|
Completely agree with the PP
|