Should I discourage this?
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Anonymous
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My charge is 6 years old and lately keeps wanting me to hold him for ages. Like I will be sat down and he will come and lie against me saying he wants me to wrap my arms around him. I am a little uncomfortable and feel like I should tell him to move off me but at the same time, I don't want to reject him or make him feel unwanted.
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Anonymous
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1. How long has he been your charge?
2. What has changed recently for him? 3. Have you asked him why he wants to cuddle more? 4. Why in the world would you feel uncomfortable when a 6 year old CHILD wants attention/affection that is appropriate for that age? |
Anonymous
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He has been ill recently so may be that. Been my charge for 18 months but as far as I know nothing else has happened in his life to make him like this.
I don't mind at all but he always wants to lie on me for ages and I worry about it. |
Anonymous
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Tell his parents and suggest they get help for the little guy. It is too much and a sign of deeper issues.
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Anonymous
If he's been sick, it's a god thing. He's resting and recuperating, and he's getting emotional support. Go with it, it's a nice break. 
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Anonymous
| I too think there's something more behind it ... I'd talk to his parents as well. |
Anonymous
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No. Let the child snuggle with you. Perhaps there is something else going on - adjusting to full-time school, significant physical or intellectual growth spurt, some level of change in the family dynamics, or whatever...
But he is seeking love/affection/comfort. I see nothing inappropriate in a 6 year old wanting physical affection from a loving adult. I think your concern about it is odd, unless there's something you aren't saying. |
Anonymous
| I don't see how this is a problem. Older kids. We'd affection and comfort too. Feel blessed that he trusts you and seeks comfort in you. |
Anonymous
| OP here and I am only uncomfortable as he wants to lay flat out on top of me. He obviously trusts me and wants the security but I am not sure MB would like it. I will talk with her about it. |
Anonymous
Just say it to him. You can't lie on me 'I don't like it' or 'I find it uncomfortable' but you can sit next to me and snuggle, or you can choose a book and sit in my lap while I read to you. Alss children have to realise that other peoples feelings matter too. So state what you are willing to offer as an alternative
I wouldn't want a bigger kid lying on top of me either a) lawsuit covering my own butt, and b) I don't like being lay on! |