MIL at 550/wk for one kid
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Anonymous
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Hi,
would you pay MIL $550 a week to stay with one baby? 550x50 weeks =28k per yr thanks , |
Anonymous
| No. Just no. |
Anonymous
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why?
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Anonymous
| I would not want my MIL caring for my baby FT so no. I have no idea what yours is like but if you like her and think she will take good care of your baby then you should certainly pay her the going rate if she is doing it as a job/could work elsewhere |
Anonymous
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You will be paying your Mother in law to watch your child?
Honestly, I think that's just a bad set up in general, regardless of the amount of pay. You will be paying, and it is your child, so you will expect that everything will be done YOUR way--because you are the employer and the parent. But in most cases, mother in law sees herself as "grandma", not the employee. She will want to do things HER way. Maybe there are a few grandmas that are not like this, but most are. |
Anonymous
| I guess it depends on the setup. Is she living with you too? Otherwise those are poverty wages. |
Anonymous
no. not living with us. |
Anonymous
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It depends.
Do you think she would be an awesome caretaker of your child? Is she a person you would consider hiring to take care of your child? Would you feel comfortable telling her how you want things done with your child and you think she would do what you want? Do you think she has the stamina to care for your child full time? Will she have personal commitments that interfere with her availability to care for your child full time? |
Anonymous
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If this is full time, then I do think she deserves either compensation or super flexibility, by which I mean she does things her way, she has as many days off as she needs, she feeds/clothes/drives/entertains your child however she thinks is best ...
Some grandmothers might love to do this for free, but many can't afford to do so or wouldn't want to do it all the time. A nanny would cost you quite a bit more; daycare would cost you a little less. |
Anonymous
| Will she really follow instructions or start doing things her way? You might create conflict and damage the Mil-Dil relationship. I would not hire MIL despite the obvious upsides that she will be a loving caregiver who will put the kid's best interests first. |
Anonymous
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It depends on your financial situation.
That is incredibly cheap for good childcare. And I would only use a family member as my full-time childcare solution in the most dire of financial circumstances. |
Anonymous
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Yes, if I thought she was capable and safe with my child.
A child growing up with the care of a grandparent is a wonderful gift. If you have to pay someone for childcare, why not Grandma? |