should we (or how do we) guide nanny/babysitter on newborn?

[Anonymous]

Hi

We are engaging a nanny/sitter for our 12 week old on a trial basis next week and were wondering if we need to guide her on how to take care of our newborn who is pretty fussy. We baby wear her for the entire day and she does not nap well at all when being laid down. I would personally prefer if the nanny could put our baby to nap in the rocker/bouncer etc but what if she cries for hours on end? Would the nanny be used to it/be able to handle it? I am a FTM and it is our first time hiring someone.. Also, we do not follow any schedule but basically when she wakes up we change her nappy and feed her and let her "play" for a bit before baby wearing her again. It has worked out well so far save for the evenings when she cries non stop (Possibly colic?)..

Any suggestions would be really useful for this noob.

[Anonymous]

Wow. You need lots of help.

[Anonymous]

It is not advised to let a 12 week old "cry it out" which is what you're suggesting when you talk of having the nanny let the baby cry FOR HOURS ON END.

Maybe your nanny can teach you to be a better parent. Maybe she can guide you. You clearly seem to need it.

A newborn's ONLY way of communicating ANY sort of unhappiness or discomfort is to cry. If you do not respond, they do not "self soothe" to stop crying. They GIVE UP ON YOU.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you aren't really up on a lot of the developmental stuff. I would look for a nanny with lots of newborn and infant experience. Ask her previous employers about how she functioned and look for someone with a track-record on being able to educate and guide parents. There are lots of nannies who could help in this way, and they will be able to give lots of specific advice on sleep that is pertinent to your individual baby.

[Anonymous]

Try probiotics, gas, drops, gripe water

Baby yoga

Bicycling legs ect.

Elimination diet could be something in your diet causing her to have gas or Allergic

Try white noise also to see if that soothes her there is a video on YouTube called "baby got colic" let her listen to that see if it helps. Just a warning the video is weird kinda creepy don't watch have to watch it, what I would do was open one tab put the video on full volume the. Open another tab and put a video for baby stimulation videos take the sound of it and allow baby to see the different images.

If your going to have nanny give bottles try getting glass bottles those are best and less air, dr brown bottles are great too! And they also have those in dr browns too!

Hope this info helps

hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

If she's an experienced nanny, she'll know how to help you. It seems like the things you're trying aren't necessarily working so hopefully you can pick up other ideas from her. Good you're doing a trial basis though for everyone's sake. I think I've read a couple of posts when the nanny quits once she finds out how fussy the baby is.